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Affect labeling
I’m interested in figuring out how to improve my emotional regulation. I have these big feelings that are exploding and causing problems within my marriage. The trigger isn’t really the problem. It’s the other things underneath that created a powder keg that the trigger lit that’s the problem. Those things underneath are feelings. But, I don’t often have a clue what I am feeling. My…
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Oh no.. more rambling.
[Just some random thoughts/advice about the importance of affect labeling.. or something..]
Was just trying to figure out potential triggers for this past weeks shitty mental state and I started thinking about the difference in my capabilities of actually putting words to my emotions and feelings in comparison to when I first started having real therapy sessions..
[Talking about DBT therapy since I feel that was a lot more intense than anything I ever had before were no one really poked around in anything more than surface level bullshit.]
Back when I first started having DBT sessions I was so detached from my emotions that I had no idea how to describe what I was feeling or even what emotion it was..
I remember in every single session my therapist ended up saying "I can see you're having a hard time with this subject. What are you feeling right now?" And all I could ever give as a response [while completely unraveling] was something like "It feels bad" or "I don't know" or "It hurts".
The best way I can describe it is I was trying to speak a language I didn't know..
It took me years to be able to go from "chest hurts" to "I'm feeling really sad today and I think it's because of this thing." And I just wanted to tell y'all struggling with avoiding/repressing your emotions that if you don't really know what you're feeling you're not gonna be able to deal with it either.. and it's a good thing to practice whenever you're having a shitty day. I'm still working on it..
Intense Worldly Alexithymia
New thought about my Affect Labeling post inspired by a good quote from The Autistic Survival Guide to Therapy about alexithymia and a metaphor of feelings being white noise pretty intensely resonated: It’s not that I don’t understand feelings, it’s that my body is sending me white noise – I think anybody would be hard pushed to hear what signal was being broadcast over the interference. The…
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Persuasion Fatigue: Just in Time to Save the Holidays
Holiday time is political-religious-sports argument time. Mix in alcohol, the Airing of Grievances, and Feats of Strength and you've got a mixture that could easily end Festivus at the emergency room, with gun fire, or the police. Here's how to avoid it.
Coping with your MAGA Relatives during the Festivus Season Festivus is nearly upon us and Ye Olde Blogge is back up and running just barely in time to help us through the festivities, especially the Airing of Grievances and Feats of Strength. 2022 being an election year makes the Airing of Grievances particularly dicey and no one wants the drunken adult wrestling matches to be fueled by…
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