#ally tip

[aajane13]

Queer Ally Tip #2

It's ok to mess up on pronouns. As long as you're doing your best, we appreciate it. When you do mess up though, avoid making a big deal of it. When you repeatedly apologize or freak out about it, it draws more attention than needed to the slip up and makes us feel worse. Its way better to quickly correct yourself and move on. We appreciate your effort more than you think.

No: "And then she- oh shit sorry! I meant he! Then he! Oh my god I'm so sorry! I've been trying really hard to use he! Its just difficult, ya know? Please don't be mad at me or cry!"

Yes: "And then she-sorry, he-said that he was..."

[aajane13]

Queer Ally Tip

Instead of asking “What gender are you?” or “Are you a boy or a girl?”, ask “What are your pronouns?”. It comes across as more polite and gives you all the necessary information. Plus, If the person is Non-Binary and/or Transgender they will most likely be happy you cared to ask their pronouns.

[ally-101]

Ally tip: always tag homophobia, lesbophobia, biphobia, polyphobia, binarism, cissexism, transphobia and transmisogyny with trigger warnings for the mental health of your lgbt+ followers.

[ally-101]

Ally tip: try to always remember your trans or non binary acquaintances' pronouns. Its simple but it really means a lot.

[ally-101]

Ally tip: claiming that cisphobia and heterophobia exist will cause queer and trans people to distrust you.