Fellow gender hoarders, tell me about your genders! (If you feel like it!)
I was just doing a survey that asked about ALL identities I felt fit me and it kinda made me realize that there is uh. Actually quite a few. Anyway, I generally identify as androgynous/gendervoid but here's my list of ALL the labels that I feel actually fit my experience with gender! :)
It is so nice being a very very androgynous genderfluid person, someone just told me they had no clue what my AGAB is and i literally started grinning ear to ear, like yes YES that was my intention :D
Ive been struggling a lot with my self image to the point I’m having breakdowns in the mirror. I need help from anyone who can.
I’m AFAB agender/non binary and ive got some gripes about me I want help in altering in any way if I could get help finding resources or workouts or anything that would help me achieve a more masculine silhouette I would kiss you on the mouth (with your consent of course )
I am 24 years old, 5’7”/170.18cm, 195lbs/88.5kg, type one diabetic, neurodivergent (diagnosed ADHD, high suspicion of comorbid Autism though i cannot get an official diagnosis because the waitlist closest to home is a 2 year wait as of 2022) fibromyalgia is also present for anyone who needs any context regarding health concerns surrounding medical procedures they might recommend or suggest
Below are the things I need help in changing as a list with some details surrounding my anatomical structure
My goal is to be completely unsure if I’m a male or female with a look alone but with androgyny that can be a pretty broad area. I know if I gain upper body musculature that can help but I cannot afford a gym membership yet
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I have an exceptionally voluptuous butt. Its almost comical to me, I would say I’m slim-thick or pear shaped. Its the type of back end that a lot of cis femme women would covet, its mostly muscle tissue due to years of athletics but theres also scar tissue from years of insulin injections
My hips are VERY wide. Like I said I’m pear shaped, I hate the curvy figure I have and its rounded edges, I have small pockets of fat resting on my hips that only add to the figure
I have a very stubborn hormonal fat deposit on my stomach I want to stop oral birth control which is the most likely culprit but I currently cannot until I can get a hysterectomy
I have a muffin top and artificial hip dips due to fat deposits that I am looking to tame
Chest dysphoria, I don’t have large boobs, they’re a perky B/C cup. I would consider top surgery but I don’t know how to bring that up with my partner. I do use a fytist binder and I love how my chest looks flat/with nice pectoral muscle (even if its smushed boob). My partner loves the way I am shaped overall but I do not. (He/him/they/them bisexual)
Facial features are so rounded and I cant contour to save my life. I know losing weight will be seen in the face first but what else can I do?
Speaking of face I have loose skin under my chin thats not a double chin but any type of glance downward makes a pseudo double chin and I’m incredibly insecure about it. I have a relatively feminine jaw line and I have a jaw exerciser/silicone bite that I need to use more. Are neck tucks something available for me?
I have hooded eyes, they make me look so tired. I know eye lid lifts are a procedure but thats something I would need to save up for and plan for, I am unsure if losing weight would change this
The triceps of my arms feel like they’re on the road to bingo wings/bat wings, I know the tricep is supposed to hang freely when relaxed and not in use but when my arm hands at my side there is a bit of pudge above my elbow that says “body fat” and not soft muscle
I understand weight loss can help with a small handful of these and muscle building can too but there are additional features and traits that cannot be worked for aside from medical intervention and cosmetic electives. I’m looking for workouts, medical procedures and price ranges, shapewear, makeup tutorials, diets that help in weight loss or muscle gain, and literally anything else that might help me feel like this is my body. Its becoming a large hinderance on my mental wellbeing
I really cannot keep dwelling on how my body is wrong when its something I am stuck with for life so all I can do is work to alter it and care for it. However I know these alterations are possible. Ive seen incredible transformations and transitions within the trans community and NB communities and I’m really hoping some of your experiences can be passed onto me so that I can live as myself too
I appreciate those that have taken the time to read this far. Thank you
Androgyny—or rather, the perception of androgyny—has long been of
interest to scholars of gender and music. Here again, Philip Auslander’s
commentary on glam rock provides a valuable reference point. In glam,
gender-based clichés allowed heterosexuality’s organizing terms of
reference—men and women, dominance and submission, desiring and
desired—to be toyed with, overplayed, and exhausted: “Bowie threw the
sexuality of rock into question, not only by performing a sexual identity
previously excluded from rock but also by performing that identity in such
a way that it was clearly revealed as a performance for which there was no
underlying referent” (Auslander 2006, 135; emphasis in original). Nevertheless, the sudden visibility of male androgyny did not necessarily create visible new roles or spaces for women, even if women did attend glam concerts
and contribute significantly to its fan cultures. Auslander observes that glam
rock “was almost completely dominated by men and took the performance
of masculinity as its terrain” (229). Discourse on androgynous masculinities must be able to interrogate which kinds of masculinity are being transgressed, which versions of femininity are made available for re-signification,
and which audience members are being interpellated when new musical
personae are produced.
from the conference paper of Timothy Laurie on the Gendered Aesthetics of K-pop
