#anomminous

[nommi]

Hey! We miss you!! How are you doing? ☺️

Hello!! Omg, I actually just randomly decided to check on this blog because I haven't been here for so long, and I noticed I had this message, together with a couple more. This actually just warmed my heart so much... the fact that even after all this time of being pretty much inactive, people still remember me...

I've been doing well, anony. I'm actually currently living in Portugal (but thinking of returning soon to the UK, where I was previously living before Covid). I've managed to finish my Master's Degree, and am now currently pursuing my field. A lot of good things happened in my personal life, and now I'm just focusing on finishing my driver's licence while I'm still in Portugal and continuing to do some projects in my area.

Aaah I missed this! Hope everyone is keeping safe and healthy. And again.. thank you so much for checking up on me, even after so long has passed, it really means the world!

Sending you so much love and light <3

[nommi]

How’s ur day!!

Really good!! Had a day off from everything for the first time in a few weeks! I just finished university yesterday, so I’m also feeling super relieved but at the same time bittersweet because I won’t see some people again ｡ﾟヽ(ﾟ´Д｀)ﾉﾟ｡

What about your day, lovely?

[nommi]

(4/4) therapist after therapist just to see them all confused in the end. So Im kinda asking this from any of your followers who've been through therapy, is this normal? Did the psychologist give up on me? And Im afraid things will not work out with the psychiatrist and I will waste both money and time but at the same time I need her and Im too tired to go through this again with a new therapist. Am I feeling anxious for nothing perhaps? Thank you nommi and Im very sorry for the big rant!!

Hello, my dear!!

Ooh, I see! That’s indeed putting you in a confusing situation. It seems like the first psychologist didn’t feel like she would be able to help you, so she sent you to the psychiatrist, hoping it would suit your needs better. But now you’re doubting the psychiatrist as well, as her methods don’t seem to be helping you so far. 

I would say to perhaps give it some time, as you just started going to the sessions recently, however, if you feel like it is not helping you in the long run, you shouldn’t need to continue on seeing her, because as you said it is expensive, plus you do need to get proper treatment. I definitely don’t think she gave up on you, perhaps she’s still trying to analyse the best way to proceed.

In terms of her approach towards your situation, I’m not sure if it is normal or not, as I haven’t had that experience in the past, but I do want to also appeal to any of my followers who are reading this and might be able to give their insight!

I’m sorry if I wasn’t able to help you a lot, but I do truly hope that you’re able to get the guidance you need and recover very soon <3 

[nommi]

Hi! Im the psychiatrist anon. I want to thank both you and @daisyyly for giving me advice and being so nice. For now I will just wait and see how it goes. Reading your answers made me feel better, thanks a lot! And nommi, I just want you to know that what you do with people, listening to them, is really sweet and an amazing thing to do. Your blog makes people feel peaceful and not alone.

Hello again, anony!!

Thank you as well for your gentle words, I really appreciate them. It makes me truly happy to know that people feel like my blog is a place where they can go for advice or just to feel peaceful <3

Hope everything has been going well with you, sending lots of love! ❀

[nommi]

Ive recently noticed i have a lot of watches and clocks. I never made the choice to collect them but i guess i do now! Pray for me that i dont become one of those people with a whole wall of clocks that all chime out at midnight

Ahaha that’s so cool! I guess you didn’t choose the clock life, the clock life chose you!

And I shall light a candle and do a prayer so that doesn’t happen 乁(✿ ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)و

please tell me about your hobbies/things you like to collect/ whatever!! i love to hear about those things!!

[nommi]

Hey so I'm 20 and in a relationship with someone who is 31. I'm in no way against relationships with age gaps. However a high schooler and a 27 year old are at very different stages in life and this can create an unhealthy power dynamic. I would urge age gap anon to be cautious. Maybe it's better to wait till you're out of school and more independent before pursuing a relationship with someone that much older.

(answer in the next ask)

[nommi]

hii💕 so i’m going into my hs junior year & my crush is a senior. one of the only things we have in common is that we are in the same club (but he’s older so i haven’t really talked to him privately). nicely enough in september there’s going to be a music show of our favorite local artist (and he also knows i like this). i truly want to invite him to go with me but we are really not that close and i don’t get to meet him that much:(

Hey, cutie!!

Aww, I see why you would be a little uneasy to ask him to go with you. I would say just to risk it and ask him anyway, considering that you will never know if you don’t try. However, if you feel like you really haven’t gotten to know each other well enough, which might make him hesitant to accept your invitation, then the best thing you can do is try to approach him next time you see each other and maybe exchange numbers? Or some sort of social media. 

Try to start a conversation and get to know one another, so you can also start feeling more comfortable and closer! That way, once you ask him to go with you (which you should definitely do!), he will be more likely to accept!

Of course, this can always be very nerve wrecking, but I always say that it is better to regret something we did than regret something we didn’t do.

Wish you all the best of luck! I’m sure everything will turn out for the best <3

[nommi]

I don't physically feel safe. I've been having really bad bouts of anxiety, which lead to bad outbursts that make my parents really mad, and tell me how much they hate me. My mom told me she wishes i never existed. This has been leading to really negative thoughts, and really recently I've been thinking about dying a lot. I know it isnt healthy, but I can't get these thoughts out of my head, and I'm really scared. I can't go to my parents. I don't know what to do.

Oh my!! First of all, let me just apologize for my late reply. Tumblr is not notifying me of any new messages, so I had no idea you sent this! (just so you don’t think I ignored you or postponed answering) I’m sorry!! 

Now, regarding your situation, that can be indeed very frustrating and disheartening, but I just want you to know that, despite not having the emotional support that you deserve and need from your parents, it doesn’t mean that you are alone or that you don’t deserve any type of help!

The thing is, we don’t choose the family we are born into and, sometimes, there are people who are not fitted to be parents (despite many times still having children of their own). So, even though your mom said such a horrible thing, I want you to know that it is not your fault and that you shouldn’t feel bad for it. You are your own person and you deserve to be alive just as anyone else!

Going back to the help situation, I think that you should definitely seek help from someone. If your family is not an option, then try seeking it either from a friend or even from a professional! I don’t know if you’re still a student, but if so, schools usually have a counselor that is willing to help students struggling with any kind of problems, so you could even start by there! Just make sure that you have someone you can lean on, be it a stranger or not, because it is important that you feel like you’re being heard.

Lastly, I really want to reinforce the fact that you’re worth it and that ending your life is NEVER a solution. By keeping strong and moving forward, I’m sure you’ll be able to overcome your current difficulties and get to a point where you look back and are proud of who you became and of the fact that you were able to go through all of this. Never forget that and if you ever need someone to talk with, know that I’m here.

I love you and wish you all the best.