i watched your video today and then went on twitter and immediately saw a viral tweet of a teenager teling a 23 year old she was prehistoric and to get off instagram and get a job (she was mad that she wouldn’t give up her insta name ahaha) and the comments actually were full of people saying they can’t believe she’d argue with a child lol. i laughed a little cause it was extremely timely but it made me glad you shared these thoughts and hopefully if we all continue doing our thing we can keep pushing forward the idea of what womanhood looks like. something you said though about how we even very recently really weren’t even able do do anything besides marriage and motherhood made me think of a conversation i had with my sister the other day which started as me saying i don’t get when adults make their kids use prefixes when saying my name as a sign of respect (seriously i’m supposed to let them call me a dinosaur and say oh how sweet but if they don’t refer to me as miss thats disrespectful? make it make sense! i’m rambling 😭) anyway so i was saying there are so many titles for woman it’s confusing, men only have to use mr. so it’s hit me now that a woman’s age and martial status was so important that society had to create a way to be able to sort you by those markers. like when i was in grade 2 , so i was 6 turning 7 after a few months my teacher was a ms. and i remember thinking how embarrassing that would be cause it would mean you were old and not married. how horrible of me to think that! no wonder it’s so hard for people to view woman and as more than wives and mothers though like i have no idea where i would have gotten that thought about embarrassment from but clearly this way of valuing ourselves as woman starts so early. so ya thanks for chatting about these things with us 💖 also none of this was what i came here to say i got distracted what i wanted to say was i watched today’s video and your hair looked so beautiful and shiny and was curled so nicely and your star background is a thing of dreams truly just delightful
oh my goddddd that twitter scenario. when my sister turned 23 she said “I’m old now” and I was like that’s objectively absurd and also your brain isn’t even fully developed until you’re 25 and she was like “okay :/” and like, WHY do we do this to ourselves?? a mystery. at 23 I had moved in with mr blake and my extremely catholic mother (who I was terrified would be furious about all the implied pre-marital sex) just said “oh, thank god someone is taking care of you,” because at 23 you are a Mess who is still mostly a Hapless Child and everyone knows this to be fact
hahaha prefixes oh god, good point. isn’t it horrific to think how early it starts??? it’s amazing how quickly we can teach girls to both feel and impart shame about other women. mildly related, I have this private joke in My Mechanical Romance where a female teacher, ms. voss, is referred to by the teen MC as being “like, forty,” which will not be funny until someone who looks like me plays her in the netflix adaptation (in my head ms. voss is in her late twenties or something). anyway now *I* am rambling but on that note, mr blake asked his middle schoolers to imagine where they’ll be in twenty years and they all submitted pictures of very old people, and he was like okay no in twenty years you’ll be about my age, I am not in a walker and do not have an oxygen tank but thank you guys for your Opinions. I’m totally off topic again but the point is you make a valid point
I know I already said it, but it really has not been very long that women have had the freedoms that they do!! seeing women who are in their thirties and publicly enjoying their hobbies is not something we have a lot of examples for because it was either not an option or we did not have the means to see them do it. I think it matters what we do with that awareness, especially when it comes to observing and self-correcting our biases and noticing how we view other women. it’s okay to notice that we have those biases as long as we self-investigate as to why, and then make sure we don’t unintentionally contribute to a culture or create an atmosphere that makes that kind of stigma okay
also, I actually DID DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT WITH MY HAIR so thank you! my hair has a different texture now and is a lot straighter than it usually is, so I curled it very quickly with a large barrel and brushed it out, and then to avoid flyaways I rubbed a teensy amount of jojoba oil in my palms and smoothed it over my ends. so hooray! I’m glad it looked shiny, a rare day of looking human for me, thank you very much I love you
