Okay, because my first visit to the Neal tag in a few days and I see people trying to push the Tamara argument... a lot... again... I'm starting to feel like a broken record...
This will probably sound blunt, but I'm sorry, you are really missing the point about Neal's feelings for Tamara.
"What was so heartbreaking about Tamara, he felt it was real, he thought he had found it, he had moved on, and I think secretly he’s always wanted to be with Emma, but never thought that was an option. I think he knew Emma well enough that it would be really hard to get her to forgive him. So he moved on, and then to find out that was wrong.” - Eddy (from the Second Star To The Right podcast)
Yes, he loved Tamara. But it was never ever nearly anywhere close to what he felt for Emma. Of course he is shown to love Emma as soon as Tamara is gone because he has loved Emma all along.And that's what I feel like people don't really understand. Tamara was the silver medal- NOT Emma. Tamara was who he went with because he didn't think he could have Emma and was too scared to try, not the other way around. Emma is NOT the rebound!
Neal acknowledges he's screwed up, twice now. Once to Emma, once to Mulan. And now he's starting to finally realize "Hey idiot time to stop running I really love this girl and this is what I want." (of course I still understand why he didn't try and I don't necessarily view him as cowardly for it because there was plenty of reasonable expectation she'd never forgive him but that's my own thing :s) And that's why now that Tamara has been revealed it's easy for him to go back to Emma, because not only is he still in love with her, but the stuff with Tamara has probably made him realize even more what he gave up with Emma. Oh, and there's kinda the fact of shooting him and putting his son and the woman he really loves in danger... tends to put quite the damper on one's feelings. And if his love with Tamara was flimsy from the beginning, then all of that is going to do a lot to turn his feelings.
And on top of that, look at how he acted towards Tamara when Emma came back into his life.
- He was going to skip town and use her car, didn't even bother to call or explain why he was leaving town with his beautiful ex for undisclosed reasons
- When asked about said car he said it belonged to a "friend"
- He couldn't return Tamara's "I love you."
- He was clearly dodging telling Emma how he met Tamara because he didn't want her to hear it, which Tamara promptly called him out on
And a whole mess of other things but since I've ranted about them all before I'm not going to bother again. Point is, if he was so madly in love with her, why wouldn't he be more up front about it? Why would he try to dodge things relating to her and especially in front of Emma?
I keep seeing things like "Oh he should've left Tamara as soon as Emma came back" or "He said he needed her" and etc etc. But thing is? The only time Emma was ever forthright about her feelings was above the portal- right before he fell through. Up until that point, Emma was vehemently denying any feelings for him. So yeah, of course he needed Tamara- he's confronted with all this crazy emotional stuff, including his situation with Emma, and Emma is still pissed and cold towards him, so yeah of course he is going to need Tamara because at that point she is all he has. That's not any big proof of some grand love, it just means he's falling back to the only person he can because he does love Tamara at least a little. And as for leaving Tamara instantly as soon as Emma came back... again, if Emma is adamantly denying any feelings for him, why would he leave Tamara when he doesn't think Emma loves him at all? You do understand a relationship takes two willing participants and Emma's feelings matter too right? What's he supposed to do? Force himself on her until she gives in?
And you know what the funny part is, I bet you anything if Neal had left Tamara to try and be with Emma, people would be ripping him apart and calling him all sorts of nasty things like an asshole for leaving his fiance for another woman or trying to force himself on her. People would find some way to twist him into the worst possible light, as usual.
It just amazes me how many people can give Hook and Regina and Rumple free passes but the one who actually has well meaning intentions and flat out says "I screwed up badly and I hate myself for it" gets ripped to shreds. I just?????
Point is, yes, the Nealmara thing probably did hurt Neal a little bit. But his love for Emma supersedes all that. And I don't know about you, but I am willing to bet that when Emma and Neal finally get to addressing the mess between them Tamara is something that's brought up. But seriously... Nealmara is NOT that epic a love story. It was his comfort when he didn't think he could have what he really wanted.
Neal's arc this season is him realizing how he's screwed up and how he's going to fight like hell to fix it