Morgana for the ask game?
What arospec identities do they have? (Can be as specific or vague as desired)
thoroughly aro ace
How proud of being arospec are they?
extremely, and she will fight you the second you talk shit about it
Do they prioritize their arospec identity over any others?
she doesn’t necessarily prioritize it so much she feels that it’s the identity that has the most effect on her life as a whole, so that makes it the most relevant
Are they out? If so, how did they come out, and to whom?
Morgana has never been shy about her disdain for the expectation placed upon women to date or be boy-crazy, and she’s always prided herself on being “a strong independent woman who don’t need no man”. but that was different than actually identifying as aro. that realization comes with a little more vulnerability to it, and it takes her a while to work up the courage to actually come out, at least to the people who matter to her.
Arthur’s top of that very short list. she doesn’t make some big production out of it, just wants to get it over with before she loses her nerve. she marches into his room, declares that she is aromantic, and waits for the other shoe to drop. Arthur is a little taken aback (and mildly confused, since he’s never heard the term before) but he recognizes the stubbornly unafraid bravado on Morgana’s face and recognizes the admission as the sign of trust that it is. he says okay, he hugs her, and that’s that.
telling everyone else is easier when she knows she has her brother’s support.
How do they feel about romance? Romance-favorable? Romance-neutral? Romance-repulsed? Or does it fluctuate?
she’s mostly neutral on romance itself. she isn’t bothered hearing about it from others or in media, and she’s up for occasionally giving advice on her friends’ love lives (though she’s liable to be much harsher in her advice than someone more swayed by romance would be; her go to advice is “dump him” and no one is ever surprised to hear it from her).
she has no interest in being in a romantic relationship herself. some days she thinks about having a life partner of some kind and that it might be nice, but other days that sounds like just as much of a hassle/burden as a romantic partner would be.
Have they ever experienced arophobia? If so, how?
Uther is still waiting for Morgana to settle down and get married. he asks about her love life every time she deigns to come over for dinner, and that is exactly why it happens so infrequently.
she fields the same questions from her coworkers and business associates, heavily flavored with misogyny, and has to restrain herself from stabbing them through the eye with her stiletto heels.
How do they show their arospec pride?
Morgana has always looked fantastic in green, thank you very much. it’s her default color so she can rep that pride no matter the occasion. for when she’s dressed down, she’s got a jean jacket that is full of pride pins (and buttons with snarky sayings on them) and a green/white/black beanie that Merlin knitted for her when he was going through a crafty phase.
Do they actively try to combat amatonormativity in their daily lives or elsewhere? If so, how?
loudly, that’s how. for every stranger who makes assumptions about her or comments on how she needs to settle down, there’s a stranger who gets an EARFUL. she’s equally as likely to pull out a powerpoint of peer-reviewed journal articles and statistics as she is to throw hands, and both have happened more than once.
Was it easy for them to label themselves arospec, or was there a long period of questioning? How many labels did they have to try before landing on the one they use now?
Morgana went through a lot of “phases” while questioning before she settled on aro. for a while, she assumed she was bi/pan because she felt the same level of aesthetic appreciation for everyone. then, she went a while identifying as a lesbian because she was sure now that she wasn’t interested in men, at least, so that was the other option, right?
she found and accepted ace before she did aro, both because it was a more visible term and because the idea of a life sans sex caused less irrational existential fear than a life sans romance. amatonormativity fucks with everyone and she is no exception. she’s always talked a big talk about being independent, but it was hard for her to wrap her head around the idea of that being a permanent state of being. so many of society’s crucial and expected “milestones” are centered on romance, and what’s left when those get removed from the picture?
she’s more comfortable with it now, reminding herself over and over that she has friends and a brother who love her, but she still has days where she struggles with what it means to be outside of the amatonormative system. it gets lonely out there sometimes.
Would they be interested in a QPR? Why or why not?
overall, no, she’s not particularly inclined toward qprs. the only time she finds herself thinking about them with longing is when she feels particularly isolated, usually when an alloro friend prioritizes their new romantic partner above her. it sucks to feel like you’re lower in your friend’s hierarchy than someone they’ve just met, and in those moments, the prospect of having one person guaranteed to put her first is tempting.
but the feeling is usually gone by morning and she focuses on refusing to allow herself to be forgotten about or devalued. she has all the relationships she wants or needs in her life. she just has to fight sometimes to maintain them.
Final thoughts?
(am i projecting a whole lot? why yes, yes i am, thank you and goodnight)
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