#aro rant

[alien-ally]

I should be on the lookout for something grand for myself. Only ever having known being little, not held accountable to explanations, the world is slowly shifting. The dating spree. Everyone. All of them. Will partner up and inch away. Curl in on themselves. And well, those that are left behind. Will they then question this purpose we’ve proclaimed as prophecy?

My life will never be like it. Nothing I will do will ever make up for it. And if i am living a life crassly making up for things i dont believe i ought to redeem myself for in the first place? That’s a fucked life isn’t it. Comfort, intimacy, affection, trust, care. You don’t want them? Sure, suit yourself. Plenty of people live alone, stay alone, die alone. Really, you can do anything you want right? You said you dont want it. Don’t blame the world if you don’t get it then. Don’t blame your life for denying you what you rejected. Live a life full of ambition, free as a kite, cook for no one but yourself, return to an empty home, sleep alone day in and day out, live a fantastic life. You can do it, what’s so bad about that? 

[lovebeingaromantic]

It’s really hard to find someone that I like who would like me back. Not only am I a genderqueer/trans masc guy who prefers guys but I’m also aroace so I’m not interested in sex and romance is difficult for me and it feels like there’s no one out there for me even if there are 7+billion people in the world. Any one of those are difficult enough to find a partner but all together, it feels next to impossible :/

[hannaxjo]

Listen, I know y’all are trying to be nice, but if an aromantic person is talking about their aromantism and about wanting to still have relationships, you don’t have to tell them that you think they’re cupioromantic. Unless you were asked, you just shouldn’t do it. They probably already know about it. They probably already know more about it than you do. I want to have relationships. I am aromantic. I am not cupioromantic. Me wanting to have relationships, has nothing to do with my romantic attraction. So just a general rule of thumb, don’t tell people what labels you think they should be using, unless they’ve asked you.

[zonatcannibalism]

I fucking hate how so many people are wrong about crazy ex girlfriend. The core of the show is an exploration of a mentally ill woman whos self destruction destroyed every single relationship in her life, mostly her romantic relationships, the relationships that she uses for her own self destruction more than anything else. The message of the show is all about how amatonormativity is harmful, especially for mentally ill people. Shipping is morally neutral and i don't want to ick anybody's yum, but if your main takeaway from the show is that "OMG Rebecca and x are sooooo cute together" you are part of the problem (perpetuating amatonormativity) and uhhh, maybe learn how to not piss on the poor?

[star-luvrx]

Sometimes i think im falling behind and i dont know if its The aromatic in me lacking lacking that romantic drive which leads to less experiences or if its the fact that im VERRY QUEER. The majority of my friends are ither straight or have a preference for guys and are all I "WANT THAT BOAT OF MEN OVER HERE!! " and im like... Yup those yucky men which they really are not that good looking (maybe we have different tastes)

But i swear i dont even want a relationship with some rando im verry much on the side of the aro spectrum where i need/want a prior relationship beforehand and even then i usally dont want a relationship with my friends. Whatever i geuss.

[transaccordionist]

I sometimes like to just listen to romance songs and imagine them as being about familiar or platonic love

[transaccordionist]

As someone who hates romance and Amatonormativity, I feel like when I find media with romance I don't hate/actually respect, or even just make me not wish for it to not be there, to me that mean it's well done romance.

[transaccordionist]

Someone just showed me a video called "6 signs you've given up on love unintentionally" and I actually laughed, like it's sad that people actually have problems finding love but it's so out of my experience that I couldn't help but to laugh