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From Mod A.N., my seflie day contribution. Never be ashamed of your sexuality, never feel broken. You are beautiful and amazing people, all of you. So stand proud this ace week! AROACE AND PROUD! 

- Mod A.N. (he/his pronouns today please :)

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Explaining my sexual identity

Since I’m demisexual, my explanation is different to other aces, since I do actually feel some attraction, just very rarely.

I describe it like this; everyone is ‘dead’ to me, or 'cold’, so I don’t see them as being sexually attractive, I don’t see people and desire them or anything. But when I get to know people, and being to feel attraction (on the rare times that happens) I describe it as those people 'warm up’, and I can see that they are attractive, and I can desire them.

So, In very basic terms, I say to my friends, You’re dead to me. But sometimes you warm up and I like you. But not often. To those who still don’t get it, or have a very, very limited understanding of sexualities, I just say 'friends, I’m attracted to friends.’ Which, whilst technically true, dosn’t really capture or properly explain my feelings.

This is a very basic explanation, and in no way how I would actually explain it to educated people, or in a serious conversation. I just use this explanation to uneducated people who don’t get it.

- Mod A.N.

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I'm asexual, but I'm not...

I’m ace spec, so I rarley experience sexual attraction. but I’m not broken. It’s just part of who I am.

I’m demisexual, but that dosn’t mean I become friends with the purpose of dating people.

I’m demiromantic, but that dosn’t mean that I automatically love all of my friends and want to date them.

I’m ace spec, but that dosn’t mean I hate sex or am sex repulsed. My sexual identity dosn’t equal how I feel about sex.

I’m aro spec, but that dosn’t mean I can’t feel love, and don’t want to feel love. My romantic identity dosn’t equal how I feel about love and relationships.

I’m aro/ace spec, but that dosn’t mean I’m straight, or ‘not gay’ enough for the lgbt+ community.

I abstain from sex because I don’t have a strong desire for it, but that dosn’t mean I am celibate. My religious views on sex, as a Catholic, and my views on sex, as an asexual, have nothing to do with each other.

I’m demisexual, but that dosn’t mean I want to have sex with all my friends. That’s not how it works.

I’m demisexual, but that dosn’t mean I’m ‘normal’ just because I only crush on people I know. There’s a difference between choosing to only date people you’re close with, and literally feeling no attraction unless you’re close with them.

I’m ace spec, but that dosn’t mean I have no sex drive, or am sex repulsed. Some asexual’s are, and thats fine. Some are not, and that is also fine. My lack of sexual attraction dosn’t mean I can never desire sex.

I’m asexual. And Proud.

- Mod A.N. (Demisexual/demiromantic she/her)