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[aro-neir-o]

Aroace Pride Flags: A Collection Post

Many aroace flags have been presented over the years and I have not been able to find a post containing all of them, so here is a post containing those proposed. These aren’t in any particular order.

To my knowledge, there have been nine distinct flags proposed, all of which I’ve seen used by at least one person. If there are any I missed, let me know.

Variation 1

By Pride-Flags

Variation 2

By decaykid

Variation 3

By @itsrainingsomewhereelse​ and @vass-rieh, posted here

Variation 4

By @milkshakeflags​

Variation 5

By @milkshakeflags​

Variation 6

By dog_of_society

Variation 7

By @aroace-people-are-lgtbq

Variation 8

By @aromagni

Variation 9

By @aroaesflags

[aroace-people-are-lgtbq]

Hi! I didn’t make this flag. It is a recolor of this artist’s aroace flag. 

Please give them credit

-Mod Ama

[aro-neir-o]

Thanks for letting me know! I’ve updated the original post. :)

[queerlection]

[Image description - Images of the aromantic pride flag with the text: VALENTINE’S ISN’T MY CUP OF TEA, I’LL STILL EAT THE SWEETS THOUGH. End description.]

[aroacefaq]

I have a question about identifying as ace. I find both boys and girls attractive, but I'm not sure I experience sexual attraction. I've watched porn and I find some arousal there but I get really turned off when I think about real life sex. I know I'm not aro because I want to be in a romantic relationship. I'm still on the fence about sex but saying I'm ace helps me understand myself and explain myself to others. Can I still identify as ace without being sure about sex or sexual attraction?

You can most definitely identify as ace, many people such as myself identify as ace and feel some sexual attraction, one dosn't have to have completely 0 attraction or interest in sex to be ace. The ace community is based on a spectrum of sexual attraction and interests in sex, so you don't have to be certain about sex to be a part of it. You are most welcome to identify as asexual if you feel it fits you, and should that change later, that's okay too.

[aroacefaq]

I go to an ace blog and don't find acespike I'm alone in this is anyone else on this planet acespike aaa

the term is new to us, but if you give us the definition we'll gladly add it to our terms page! is it in any way similar to aceflux? 

if any of our followers are acespike and want to reach out to other people who are acespike, maybe responding to this post could be a start. 

[asterosian]

Y’all non-aromantics making aro icons and stuff to include us in pride posts: hey thanks! That’s really cool of you! But please, can you make sure you’re using the right flag? The aro flag got changed up a lot when people were first putting one together and I see a lot of you using really old designs that the aro community doesn’t use anymore (like, the one with the orange stripe). Since three different ones come up when you search on google images, the confusion is completely understandable and if I weren’t aro and hanging around aro spaces online a lot, I would get confused too.

Here is the current one:

Note the five stripes and the one in the middle being white and not yellow. A lot of aros at the time of the flag’s creation had issues with eye strain when the yellow one was more common, so the yellow stripe was switched out for white to accommodate them.

Thank you for including us, but we’d really appreciate it if you used the flag we’re using!

[lesbianpeachs]

yes I agree!!! but it’s not just non aros, and I wanna ask that other aros be aware of the current flag and why the community had problems with the others too. if you’re making stuff for other aros, its important that it be something that the community is most comfortable with.

[aspecsafespace-blog]

When you’re so ace your favourite mug matches your ace ring

[just-graysexual]

Please remember no one has the right to tell you who you are or who you are not.

They are not in your head. They do not know how you feel. They do not understand what is going on inside of you.

The only person that can tell you who you are is you. And if you feel it and believe it then it is valid.

Don’t let anyone take that from you. You keep being you.

[arodorable]

“Do we really need all these labels?”

Let me tell you, as someone who bounced around and spent years trying to find a label to explain my orentation, finding one that almost fits is still alienating. You often won’t relate to the rest of that community, because you’re experiances are different. It’s not always a lot, but it can be very noticeable. You’ll find yourself explaining why you’re different than the definition, which can lead to feeling like you’re misusing the word or feeling like you don’t belong.

If you don’t like all the labels or find them confusing and hard to remember, fine. But they have a purpose and they’re helping people. Having more labels available for people looking for them is not a problem. If you feel like you can’t keep track of them, that’s fine. I honestly don’t think any of us expect you to know ever last little one. What we expect is that when we say our orentation and explain what it is, you will accept it and continue to treat us with respect.

[c1trusbl00m]

Ace Spectrum Pride Gif!

Let me know if you want another gif made with your pride flag, or if you want a single frame. My askbox is always open!

[aroacefaq]

Straight people: Oh sorry! I don't swing that way!

Gay people: Sorry, I bat for the other team.

Me: Yeah, sorry I don't play that game.

[savedmyselffromthedragon-deacti]

I love that asexuals get to call themselves “ace.” That is the most badass identifier I have ever heard.

[no-its-becky-rosen-winchester-d]

All I really want is an ace/aro fairytale protagonist. Like, think about it.

“The curse can only be broken by true loves-” “God fucking damn it”

[timetraveldean]

[ayy-spec]

i heard the term “triple a” to describe a person who is aromantic asexual and agender which prompted these images to come to mind. i tried to make them transparent, use em for whatever you want

[rwk-deactivated20160216]

asexuals be like

[rwk-deactivated20160216]

i think we can all take a moment to appreciate these tags

[theowlisthelimit]

antique-symbolism

[thelinuxdemon]

Its because we are all secretly dragons on the inside, and a little on the outside

[asexualitydragon-deactivated201]

And a little on the outside. Now…

[thelinuxdemon]

You mean you didn’t receive your patented Dragon/Human disguise clothing? There must be a glitch in the system, give it a week or so

[asexualitydragon-deactivated201]

I blame those darn aromantic griffons. AAW has been occupying my time for the last week, it must have delayed my shipment.

[werewolfcourf-deactivated201511]

The asexual convention is in town

[aroacejokes]

My friend just asked me to name the hottest guy I could think of and I answered “the human torch” and I don’t think I’ve ever felt this ace in my life.