#aroromance

[captainwaffles]

Aro Pride Gnome

[captainwaffles]

I have no idea the difference between Romance and Platonic feelings. I’m not sure if there is a difference for me

So if anyone who knows the difference can explain that would be much appreciated

But for right now, here are some aro identities I can kinda vibe with, and if any of you identify as that your help would be much appreciated

Platoniromantic

Quoiromantic

Frayromantic

Aegoromantic/anegoromantic

Idk man, can any of y’all help?

[captainwaffles]

To my Aro +/ ace spec people

I hope you can live the life you want. Whether that is settling down with a partner(s) romantically, platonically, sexually, or staying solo.

I hope one day everyone respects you a-spec identity, cause it’s beautiful and amazing

I hope one day you realize if you don’t already, you aren’t broken, you don’t need to be fixed.

I hope y’all can live the life you want cause you deserve it

[captainwaffles]

Everyone around me are so sure of the emotions

No matter how strong they were

Whether they were platonic romantic or something else

Everyone around me knows exactly how they feel

I’m not sure how I feel

I’m not sure what these emotions are

They are big and strong and powerful

They are part of me and I don’t understand them

It’s like a betrayal of my own body

Crying when you don’t want others to see your tears

Falling asleep during important class

Feeling tired after walking of a flight of stairs

How could something that’s a big part of me

not be understood by me

It’s ironic

Just thinking about it makes me sick

Who am I supposed to go with these

My mom? My dad? A friend?

What would they say?

Would they show me I’d figure it out eventually

Or they say I’m too young to know

What I’m feeling is wrong and I should be ashamed

My feelings are dirty

That I somehow messed up my own feelings 



So I don’t go to anyone

Let the strong emotions inside of me

Consume me like a fire

It’s better than burning from the outside

(Explanation below the cut)

Questioning aro ace can be really lonely. It can be hard to understand. As a lot of us know it sometimes even watching our peers start dating and taking about sex can be so confusing and isolating

I was lucky enough to realized I was ace younger than a lot of other ace folks.

But I’m still not sure on aro. and it’s very hard. I know I don’t feel romance like other people if at all. And I know I’m not alone

Queer emotions growing up in a cishet environment is terrible as it is. It sucks. But being aro +/ ace is another layer to that

We come to this community hoping for answers and camaraderie. But a lot of us don’t