Rant About Good Omens S3/Finale and Some Fellow Aspec Reactions
Before I start my rant, let me just warn you: I'm about to lose my shit over something, so if you're easily offended, or think you might get defensive about the subject matter, just keep scrolling and don't open the cut. I won't be entertaining any argument on this rant, because this is my blog, and my post, and these are my feelings. You don't have to like them for them to still be true, and I put the cut there so you don't even have to read them, if you don't want to. As such, I won't be entertaining any arguments in the comments, etc. I'll just shut down your access.
(Oh, and I swear a lot when I rant... so if swearing bothers you, don't read this.)
So, if you're still interested in my thoughts after that, you can keep reading below the cut.
The Rant:
Y'know something? I'm all for community and solidarity. But since the Aspec community is an umbrella, under which lots of different type of ace and aro people are found, can we make a little interior-to-Aspec community agreement?
I (panromantic demi/ace) won't speak for you, as my fellow Aspec person, and you don't act like you speak for the entire fucking Aspec community. Deal?
I'm completely sick and done with reading "Ace and aro people don't want (any romantic gesture/words), so we like the GO finale."
Really, Karen? You got a mouse in your pocket you're speaking for? Because I didn't give you permission to speak for me.
Aside from my sexuality, I'm an author. And I'm fucking disgusted with the S3/Finale.
See, I love romance. I write queer romance for all different stripes of the LGBTQIA+ community. And I don't have to be interested in having sexual contact, myself, to appreciate romantic gestures like kisses, hugs, and "I love you"s. And I believe in fairness and justice so hard I can't even fully articulate how important it is to me. All I can say is, read my books, and you'll get how important the concepts of fairness and justice are to me. And there wasn't a goddamn thing fair, just, or romantic about that S3/Finale. And don't fucking start on me about "life isn't fair." I goddamn know it's not. I've lived with a body that's been trying to kill me since I was born (I'm a Gen Xer, so that should give you a general idea how long that's been), a psyche that's had to deal with S.A. and torture as a child, Evangelical Fundie parents who were determined to "beat the sin" out of me, and the early loss of both my baby daughter and the love of my life, right before my eyes. I know exactly how unfair life can be. Which is why I believe so strongly in fairness/justice and the power of love to overcome, in fiction. I believe it is a writer's duty to provide what they promise to their audience. If you promise love, and a happy ending, then you better well deliver. especially if you're making that promise to a community that has been continually betrayed by society as a whole.
That betrayal of the queer community at large, who were strung along for six years, complete with a canon kiss (whatever its reason), and promised for 3 of those years that there was a happy ending for our queer-coded characters, only to watch those same queer-coded characters be obliterated infuriates me, yes. White hot rage, infuriates me. However, isn't the only part about S3 that disgusts me.
Oh, no. That combo of nauseating disgust and boiling fury is reserved for the absolute dumpster fire of a script, beginning to end. As far as I'm concerned, it's an insult to good writing, to good fiction, and to good representation. I've been over this in depth, and reblogged others who managed more rational analysis while I was genuinely lamenting my inability to create rage lightning. But I've managed to get side-tracked. None of that's what this post is about, and I'm sorry for my getting distracted by my fury, again.
This is a "don't make sweeping statements about how an entire group feels" PSA.
You're entitled to like Good Omens S3/Finale if you want. But you don't get to speak for me, or anyone else in the community. And you certainly don't get to call people elsewhere in the queer community stupid or idiots for their feelings of betrayal, heartbreak, and anger.
You are fully within your rights to use your own asexuality or aromanticism as the reason you happen to like what's been presented. But stop saying "we in the ace community..." and "ace people don't care whether or not they kiss" or "aro/ace people are just fine with how it ended."
Not all of us are. In fact, some of us (speaking for myself only) are very, very not okay with any of it.
