#ash levi

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[ashbelero]

Is it alright if I ask you something about bdsm? I am person with an extremely low sex drive so I don't really have much experience. But is it okay to not indulge in a kink of my partner? My partner is vanilla for the most part but had always been into restraining. They had asked about it recently but I am extremely uncomfy about the idea of being restrained due to personal trauma, but I feel bad if I say no. You were the only person I could think about approaching

Great question, anon. I’m gonna hand this off to Levi.

“It’s always okay to not want to do something your partner likes. Whatever feelings you have for them don’t override your discomfort unless you’ve agreed to it. It doesn’t matter if I tell my submissive or my partner that he’s the only person who matters to me or whatever; if he doesn’t want to do one of my kinks, that’s perfectly alright. If your partner pressures you to disregard that for him, that’s not good, so watch for that.

However, let’s assume you have a small part of you that thinks you might want to do it. Restriction can be done very safely and gradually if you want to acclimate and show yourself that you aren’t in danger. You’re the only person who can decide if you want to give it a try, but if it were me in that particular situation, I’d start with scarf binding on my ankles. Something soft and not too restraining where I’m able to get out on my own, with a knot I can easily undo if I start getting scared. You can try this by yourself with no one around to influence you, and see if you can adjust.

But that’s if you want to give that a shot. You have NO obligation to “try it and you might like it” with any kink whatsoever. It doesn’t matter if that’s bondage or pain play or even kissing- if it makes you uncomfortable, then your partner should not be pressuring you. Your hard limits are not negotiable. Thanks for coming to us, anon.” 

Image transcription under the cut.

Image 1: Levi is holding a length of chain out to Ash, with a speech bubble containing a question mark. Ash is frowning and shaking his head, with a speech bubble containing an X.

Image 2: Levi sitting up against a pillow with comfy clothes and a book. His ankles are crossed and tied with a scarf. Speech bubbles: “You don’t even have to do anything sexy. Get cozy and do something that makes you feel safe and comfy.”

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Ash Levi

[ashbelero]

I think I'm falling in love with Levi... ? nononono, not obey me Levi. Your Levi! Goodness gracious, what a mind that man must have!

Levi is a lovely man and a wonderful Dom and he’s been slowly rescuing me from the place writing Hematoma put me in.

[ashbelero]

Hey! I just wanted to say i finished the chapters of Idolatria that are out and i LOVE it!!!! The characters are realistic so they feel like actual people instead of just characters. Your writing style is so beautiful. i think you have just the perfect amount of description of the world around the characters and their feelings. It doesnt distract from the story, it only adds to it. And i love the way you handled the conflict with Ashs religion (1/2)

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Thanks so much, Anon, glad you’re enjoying. Looking forward to the next chapter but things are going slow.

[infinityxpremades]