#askanonbinary

[allagorr]

askanonbinary reblogged your post and added:

Right sorry for the mistake! -Danny

Its okay! ^.^

[iunosteel]

if anyone managed to reblog it before it was deleted pls tell me bc i'd like to read it. i've interacted with margot before (only in the context of aanb but still) and i'd like to keep myself informed bc i don't want to be anywhere near abusers. if anyone has any info on this outside of that one post too I'd appreciate it a lot thank u

[iunosteel]

ok did anyone else see that callout post for mod margot on AANB or was that just me? bc i saved it to read later but it looks like it's been deleted? what's going on?

[nonbinary-support]

we're increasingly getting more and more asks praising us and name dropping askanonbinary as a bad/mean/aggressive blog. Please stop. Like, thank you, we appreciate the praise, but not at the expense of other nonbinary people who are handling their blog differently than we do. They're honestly pretty on point about most of the things I've seen them talk about and I really don't like this weird...like...pitting blogs against each other thing that is happening. -Mod Virgil

[mental-health-advice]

Could you refer sexual/romantic and never identity issues to askanonbinary since these are not mental health issues? That blog will provide more resources & assurance, since an NB individual runs it.

Hi love,

I personally tend to refer people asking questions about gender identity to askanonbinary, askatranswoman and/or askatransguy alongside answering their question. (As well as other resources such as TransYada (although yes, I don’t always do this and probably should!)) I wasn’t aware askanonbinary also dealt specifically with sexual/romantic orientation questions?

Mental health can be very much linked to sexual orientation and gender identity, and the confusion and sometimes distress surrounding that. Issues such as feelings of isolation, familial rejection, coming out, axniety about presentation, gender dysphoria, etc, these can tie into our mental health and as such are often relevant here. There's a big overlap between mental health and most parts of our lives!

Questions sent here about gender are always answered by a transgender/non-binary admin, and questions about sexuality are generally always answered by an LGBTQIA+ admin.

However, I will let the other admins know of this resource to use in future replies, thank you!

Love and hope,Lee

Note: Edited to be more coherent, sorry!

[bramblepatch]

hello, i'm the mod to aanb and i wanted to thank you personally for your amazing commentary on that recent ask, that is something i have been trying to say properly for literally years and you managed to articulate better than i have ever been able to. thank you so, so much. i may have quoted you 3 separate times. i was kind of blown away.

Oh, gosh, I've just been sitting here watching my tracked tag and feeling kind of starstruck; I really admire the work you do on aanb and I'm so honored that you like my commentary! (and you did a nice job editing it for paragraph breaks; I know I can get kind of wall-o-texty when I'm on a roll.)

[spacepenquin]

Beck gave me this word and I like it so I'm gonna start using it: voidboy

Voidboy as a gender is where you feel your gender as a void, a kind of nothingness or genderlessness, but being a boy is also a thing that happens. Sometimes the void and the boy exist simultaneously, sometimes you're one or the other for a bit before switching.

It's kinda like space. Space is often called a void, but that doesn't mean there isn't anything out there. No, space is filled with things. For voidboy, this space just happens to be filled with boy.

So, yeah, voidboy. It's a thing. It's my thing. And anyone else it resonates with. <3

(of course, your void could be filled with something else. you could be a voidgirl or anything else. space is filled with *lots* of things)

[genderexpressions]

Hey, it's the F-cup anon from before. Two questions: 1) what's your perception of the term "aliagender"? It's a bit of a neologism, so probably whoever adopts it will have a hand in defining it, but I couldn't find much more than a brief definition and I was wondering what people "in the know" thought. 2) Any tips for coping with dysphoria when the breasts in question are large? My binder helps a little, but it's by no means flat and produces an obvious breast profile even under baggy shirts.

Hi again! The term Aliagender was created by askanonbinary! (Source) As far as I know, it was created so people can identify as another gender without using the term third-gender, which is from a racist-colonialist history, as far as I know. I don’t have too much information on the term Aliagender, but I’m sure askanonbinary will be able to help more!

As for chest dysphoria, again, we are in the same boat. I have a hard time with that as well. I use this binder and in the beginning it worked well, but the more I wore it the more worn it got and it doesn’t compress as well. Reaching in to try and shift the breasts apart works somewhat, but other than that it’s difficult.

In the winter, it’s easier to wear a baggy shirt and a zip-up hoodie (which I still do in the summer but I don’t recommend, it’s very hot) and that helps to make it less noticeable.

Please do not use ace bandages!! I understand the dysphoria but that can lead to rib/lung/general upper body damage and it is permanent. 

Hope that helps! Followers can also reply with advice!

-Mod Dillon