#mod dillon

[edm-for-real-justice]

R.I.P.

This page is dead, it's a sad thing indeed ~~☆Mod Dillon☆~~

[genderexpressions]

I am really stressing myself out. Ok, so here's the deal. I identify as Male. That I am 100% positive of. But, my gender expression doesn't match up some days. Somedays I feel like I can only express myself through feminine apparel. Like, I've done a lot of research on gender fluidity & to me it seems I am fluid with my gender expression. I would just like to know of there is a better term or a term at all that can describe me.

Mod Scarlet: hmm, I’m afraid I don’t really know of any words to describe gender expression like that, aside from maybe crossdresser, but I can totally understand not being comfortable with that. you could try coining your own term maybe ^.^ you could also just change the way you think about clothing. if you’re male, so are all your clothes. even if it’s the frilliest, pinkest dress you can imagine, it is by no means a woman’s dress unless it belongs to a woman. I hope that helps somewhat~

Mod Dillon: Ever considered that you’re genderfluid, or demiboy?

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Do you know of anywhere to get good quality binders in the UK? I've seen you give the Underworks binders a lot of praise, but the website is American, and while American websites do sometimes ship abroad, the postage is usually crazy high when I order other things from the USA (and that's not even getting to the possibility of extra customs fees, which are hard to determine). Any suggestions?

I thought I had seen something on our blog about UK resources for binders before but I think I was wrong. Sorry! I did a bit of digging on the net, however, and found a few things.

I found this on the UK Amazon site. There’s a few others in the related section as well. Just make sure you measure before purchasing!

Also, a few people have said that they purchased from Underworks and the shipping was not that expensive. 

I wanted to buy from the UK too but we just seem to have nothing of much here…i can find the odd packer but as for binders i’ve never found anything.I’ve just this second put my order in for a underworks tri-top binder as i have a larger chest (D-DD)it was cheaper then i thought. Came to $48.00 thats around £32.00 including airmail costs.

I found that here. Susans is generally a decent website. That post is from 2010 so things might have changed. Unfortunately, besides ebay, that’s all I was able to find.

Hope that helps!

-Mod Dillon

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F-cup anon: no questions this time, just wanted to say: thank you so much for all the help! It's nice to talk to someone in a similar situation, especially with such prompt replies!

You're very welcome! You're free to ask us questions anytime and we'll answer to the best of our knowledge! You can also send me an ask on my personal blog if you want to talk more/privately!

-Mod Dillon

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Hey, it's the F-cup anon from before. Two questions: 1) what's your perception of the term "aliagender"? It's a bit of a neologism, so probably whoever adopts it will have a hand in defining it, but I couldn't find much more than a brief definition and I was wondering what people "in the know" thought. 2) Any tips for coping with dysphoria when the breasts in question are large? My binder helps a little, but it's by no means flat and produces an obvious breast profile even under baggy shirts.

Hi again! The term Aliagender was created by askanonbinary! (Source) As far as I know, it was created so people can identify as another gender without using the term third-gender, which is from a racist-colonialist history, as far as I know. I don’t have too much information on the term Aliagender, but I’m sure askanonbinary will be able to help more!

As for chest dysphoria, again, we are in the same boat. I have a hard time with that as well. I use this binder and in the beginning it worked well, but the more I wore it the more worn it got and it doesn’t compress as well. Reaching in to try and shift the breasts apart works somewhat, but other than that it’s difficult.

In the winter, it’s easier to wear a baggy shirt and a zip-up hoodie (which I still do in the summer but I don’t recommend, it’s very hot) and that helps to make it less noticeable.

Please do not use ace bandages!! I understand the dysphoria but that can lead to rib/lung/general upper body damage and it is permanent. 

Hope that helps! Followers can also reply with advice!

-Mod Dillon

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So I just saw that post about a kind of binder being bad - I have that binder, and another one, and while it is tight, I wear it more than the other one because it works better (my other one gives me a massive uni-boob). So that's both my cheap binders either not working, or being unhealthy for me. So, I have to ask - are there any cheap binders out there that work, whilst not being damaging?

Mod Dillon: Underworks has some cheaper options!! My binder is from there and it works pretty good. I have this one specifically. It does it’s job. The only issues I have is that it likes to roll up at the bottom (I am a bigger person so that may be it) and that wearing it for more than a few hours is very uncomfortable. Then again, most binders are like that.

Edit: There is also discount codes for the site!

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How would the big brother / big sister thing work?

Mod Dillon: I haven't thought it all out yet, but it would be an online version of the big brother / big sister program that they have in North America! Basically, someone who is a bit more experienced with gender as a whole or has a lot of experience with going through their own gender journey takes someone with less experience and becomes their queer sibling. They help them out where needed like a real sibling would! Doesn't even have to be with their gender identity or sexuality or anything to do with that. In short, they'd be a supportive person that they can trust and talk to. I know a lot of people don't have a sibling to go to, or if they do they're not always queer or understanding to your feelings. So, I figured something like this would be nice! I wish I had someone like that there for me when I was younger.

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i would say hooray to both things

:)