#askcheshire

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How often do you get on here?

We haven't gotten any asks lately, so I've kind of been slacking a bit... But I do try to get on every day to check if we've gotten any asks and if I can answer any of them. The more we get the more I'll get on.

There's no need to be afraid to ask about something; we don't bite :)

~Cheshire xx

(not sure about the other girls though, school and timezones doesn't get on well)

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So I'm that girl that said the thing about me and my friend being ridiculously close and I wasn't sure how she felt and you said I should make a move but keep an open mind about the whole thing. Yea, we're dating now and I'm seriously super duper mega ultra happy about that. Thanks for the advice guys <3

Aw, I'm so happy to hear that! Good luck with your relationship, lovely! We'll always be here if you need more advice!

~Cheshire xx

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I'm a girl, 16. My friend and I are ridiculously close. She means the world to me, and I her. Lately, I've come to the realization that I like her more than a friend. And I'd bet all the money I have that she feels the same.We hold hands in public and school. We stay up texting each other. We cuddle. I feel like I have a chance at being her girlfriend, I really do. But how would I go about doing it? I could wait it out and see where it goes, but I feel like just making a move already. Help lol?

Hello, lovely!

First of all, that's great that you have someone that close to you! But at the same time, being that close to someone doesn't always mean that she likes you back.

Now, I'm not saying there is no possibility for her to like you. Of course not. There's a big possibility that she does! But try not to think of it as "I'd bet all my money I have that she feels the same about me," because if she doesn't, that can make it harder for you.

I'd say you go for it. Make a move, but do it with an open mind. Tell yourself that even if she doesn't feel the same way, you can still be friends, and make sure she knows that after you've made a move.

But, if she does feel the same way, then that is awesome! 

Make a move, but do it with an open mind. :)

~Cheshire xx

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Okay, so my friend told me she was bi. I was fine with that. We joked about it. But now she told me she has a crush on me. I've only spoken to her twice and it was awkward as fuck. I don't want to loose my friendship with her but im not quite comfortable with the fact that she likes me. Help me save my friend ship please?

Just as with a boy/girl friendship, I think you should tell her that you don't feel the same way. I get that it can be uncomfortable (I've gotten the same thing with a guy friend of mine), but just try to remember that you can still be friends even though she has a crush on you.

The thing is, that crushes are like creatures, in a way. If it doesn't get fed, it won't grow, and eventually it'll die. So continue being friends with her, but make sure she knows you don't feel the same about her.

But, tell her in a nice way. For me, it was difficult coming out as bi, and if a girl rejected me badly, I might've been scared that she was freaked out because I was bi. Make sure she knows you still want to be friends, and that you're not affected in any way that she's bi. But also make sure she knows that the feelings aren't reciprocated.

Good luck, hon!

~Cheshire xx

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i have incredibly bad trust issues, i refuse to trust basically anyone and im afraid that soon i'll be out of friends because im honestly a bad person. help me please

I know how it is, babe. I think it's important that you remember to start slowly. You don't have to trust anyone with everything, not at all. I think maybe telling your friends you have bad trust issues could help as well, so that they know it's not personal. That way they can't really blame you for anything.

You don't have to trust people with everything. The closer you get to someone, and the longer you've known each other, the more secure it is to trust someone. If you know what I mean? 

Try telling yourself that you know this person and you can trust them.

Take small steps, baby!

~Cheshire xx

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so i just left my religion place of worship because their beliefs didn't line up with mine anymore and i didn't feel that i could practice and still be true to myself, but everyone's asking me to go back, especially my parents, who insist that it will be good for my future and for social means. i've told them that it's not for me, and they listened and said that i should just go anyway, to keep up an appearance. i suppose it's not a terrible hassle, but i feel like a fraud i guess.

I know what you mean. My father is Christian, though we've never felt the need to go to Church every Sunday and whatnot. I think it's best that you decide, since it's your life and your religion we're talking about. If you don't feel like you belong there, you don't have to be there.

Your parent's shouldn't tell you to just go anyway. Even though they have the religion, doesn't mean that you need to have it as well. We all have the right to believe in what we want to believe in, not what other people tell us to believe in.

You should probably talk to your parents again. Tell them it's your beliefs, and not theirs that's up for discussion, and that you should be able to pick your religion yourself. 

Sorry for the bleak answer, but I don't think any of us have much experience with religions... Hope all goes well, and if not, we're always here :) 

~Cheshire xx

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You havent answered my ask!! It's the one were you only got 1&3 so I sended you guys two with the names 2.5&2.6!! Answer!! Oh and my parents have just gotten into a divorce! So I'm feeling really shit and starting to wonder if you even want to "help"!! ): I've been waiting for so long!! Please answer soon!! .xx

I'm sorry, I'm sorry! :/

We really do want to help, I promise. I think Cleveland is working on an answer, but I haven't been able to talk to her in a while, what with different time zones and her going back to school and what not!

I'll send her a message and remind her, I promise!

I'm so sorry, love, we're working on it <3

~Cheshire xx

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How did you guys come together and make this blog if you have never met? Ö

Through Tumblr and common interests!

They're two of my best friends :)

~Cheshire xx