Anon: Im probably bothering you but recently I've been bothered by my dad constantly calling me fat he doesn't just casually mention it he literally calls me fat as if it's my name. Ive started to question my sexuality which definitely isn't good since my parents are both homophobic my dad probably to the point of kicking me or my sister who has come out to me out of the house. Hearing my dads racist sexist homophobic and fatphobic comments have made me start considering self harm and suicide. Link: There is a lot to handle so you need a game plan. First, have you considered therapy, counseling or talking to a social worker. This isn't right at all. I can relate to a parent constantly calling you names because I dealt with it. I won't say I know how you feel because I don't. Everyone deals with things their own way. He is a bully and there are many ways to deal with a bully. My personal favorite is to laugh at them. When people say stuff about my thighs I laugh and say "aren't they fabulous?" I'm a bigger girl so parts of me are thick. His opinion only has power if you allow it to have power. So next time he says something give a "no fucks given" attitude. *looks under table* *opens door* him:what are you doing? You: trying to find the cares I give. I can't find any. I'm a smart ass so I'd do that. When he says it you could say nothing, give a "fuck you look" or say "that's not true so it doesn't bother me." When you get upset he's getting what he wants, power over you. If he points out flaws tell him every part of you is beautiful and fabulous. As for him being ignorant there isn't much you can do. I don't know your age but while you're in his house you need to keep the peace and let him be an ass. When you leave tell him about himself and go on from there. #asklink