#audrey's askbox

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GET OFF THE FUCKING SERVER

is this mina or tester hi mina or tester

now get lost 💜

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Sorry if you don't want to answer this, but I don't know who else to ask. I understand that QPRs aren't just romance-lite, but then what are they? I'm aromantic, I have trouble understanding the differences between types of relationships and I'm really confused

nah, don't be sorry! i'm happy to help to the best of my knowledge.

i usually see qprs described as a grey zone between best friendship and dating, and i guess that's... kind of accurate? but it's also potentially unhelpful, especially for people like me who don't fully understand what dating is supposed to be like. i think it's a lot more tangible to describe qprs like this: platonic soulmates; someone you know better than anyone else; maybe you live together or you'd want to live together; forehead kisses; a deep, faithful partnership; maybe you'd want to adopt a kid together someday, and just platonically coparent them; a relationship domestic and blissful and yet genuine romance is never part of the equation. if you've ever had a REALLY close best friend and thought maybe you were developing a crush on them, and thought you were maybe wrong about being aro, before realizing you find repulsive the idea of doing romantic activities without a profound degree of platonic joy coating the whole experience, then maybe the thing you're really wanting is a qpr. it's very close to best friendship, but with intimate, committed partnership being a vital part of the dynamic.

or at least that's what it is to me. hopefully that's helpful (?)

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To me, your trademark is the anthropomorphic ducks and turtles.

jsjdkdjdk i knew it was gonna be this! i'm everyone's ducks and turtles mutual. subjecting duckblr to the purple guy daily 😩

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I LOVE YOUR HEADER!!!! OR WHATEVER ITS CALLED I CAN'T REMEMBER

HI FELLOW COMMUNITY FAN!!!! THANK YOU AND HAPPY DECEMBER 10TH ❤️❤️

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7, 10, and 23 for Dewey.

7. What's something the fandom does when it comes to this character that you like? I think Dewey is probably the one triplet the fandom actually does pretty good at keeping in character most of the time and I love how popular the headcanon of him growing his hair out is! Teen/Adult Dewey definitely keeps his hair long and styles it like his mom

10. Could you be best friends with this character? I wish I could say yes, but I feel like we probably wouldn't have a whole lot in common. I'm terrified of any kind of adrenaline-rushing activities, so I would probably hate a lot of the things he would find fun and he would be bored as hell doing anything I like to do

23. Favorite picture of this character?

he looks so joyous! he's adorable!

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2, 8, and 11 for fandom asks!

2: a headcanon you weren't sure about at first but have come to like!

for rottmnt: nonbinary lesbian donnie! at first i did not see it at all but now i struggle to imagine him any other way.

for ducktales: sorry it's another queer headcanon but genderfluid scrooge! somebody in the group chat proposed it and gave their propaganda (I DON'T REMEMBER WHO RIP) and at first i was like 😕😕 but i couldn't stop thinking about it and now i really like it. scroldie toxic yuri is real in my head

8: you hope more people will come to appreciate ___ (a ship, a trope, an episode, etc)

for rottmnt: the fact that donnie is really bad at sports. i think it's an interesting detail and i don't see it explored super often in fan content. in particular i find it interesting that he always participates anyway and seems to have fun and genuinely give it his all, and his brothers seem to like playing with him even if he sucks. there's some good fluff fic potential in there. also the shorts/mini episodes on youtube are so neglected by the fandom

for ducktales: PENUMBRA AND LAUNCHPAD FRIENDSHIP. DELLUMBRA AND DRAKEPAD DOUBLE DATE. SEE THE VISION, PEOPLE!!

11: if you're a writer or artist, what fic or piece of art are you proud of making?

Fold, my first uploaded fic! It's one of the best examples of my writing that exists and I still struggle to believe I wrote it in just four days. People also seem to really like it and the validation and feedback from readers is really inspiring. 💜

Thank you for the ask! 💜

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if you feel up to sharing, i was just wondering - when did you realize you had n24swd? did you always recognize the symptoms as distinct, or did it take you awhile to realize what exactly was happening with you, and if so, what was that process like?

sorry to pry, I'm just curious because I'm starting to suspect my fatigue issues might stem from more than just an AMPS side effect (<- i say as if you havent repeatedly expressed that you are eager to share)

YESSS i love talking abt non-24 ty 💜 also SORRY this is long but i wanted to be thorough

my symptoms first showed up when i was abt 6 years old. my parents just dismissed it as fussy sleeping- which is fair because i would also very often have periods of several weeks where i was sleeping through the night just fine, and i was a very quiet kid so my parents often had no idea i was even awake at night. (non-24 is so rare that there isn't even an established age of onset yet, but i've heard childhood is pretty common) and i would just be given melatonin sometimes when i was distinctly nocturnal and it was causing problems

when i was a teenager it started to become less manageable because i had more responsibilities; i was deadass hallucinating vividly just from sleep deprivation. back then my doctors, family, and myself all thought it was combination delayed sleep phase disorder (dspd) and psychosis. i think it's pretty common for non-24 to be misdiagnosed as dspd or for dspd to gradually become non-24, so i guess that's one thing to look out for. i had sleep studies done and my results were inconsistent and dspd was just slapped on it and nothing was actually done until quarantine

during quarantine i got to sleep and get up whenever i naturally wanted to, and it very evidently wasn't dspd at that point. i tracked my own sleep from home, got the non-24 diagnosis, and the doctors were basically like "well we can try entrainment but ur insurance doesn't cover any of the experimental treatments so if entrainment doesn't work then rip i guess" (entrainment = using tranquilizers, lifestyle changes, and other methods to try and basically brute force the circadian rhythm on a 24 hour schedule) we were supposed to be doing entrainment for at least a full year but i was so fucking miserable that it got cut at 6 months. a lot of people with non-24, even people with internal clocks only an hour or two off from 24 hours, can't entrain at all.

if you have periods of a few weeks at a time where you're distinctly awake and alert at night and very fatigued during the day, followed by another few weeks of being sleepy at night and alert at day— especially if you can't consistently get up with an alarm no matter when it's set— then that's like the big thing to look for. it's the thing that makes non-24 distinct from dspd and other disorders that cause fatigue. the circadian rhythm itself is broken.

i hope that's helpful at all kdhzjhsksks

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🌷 🍌

🌷From Waves:

The beautiful thing was that Lena did know. She had no doubt that their fathers would care, that they would want to know and help her. And now that the cloud of anxiety and fear had lifted, it was obvious that Violet wanted to help her, too; that her little sister would rather they both be safe and happy. She felt a little silly now, for not telling Violet the moment she started to feel afraid.

🍌From literally the only wip i have atm:

Donnie frowned a little at that, and then remembered something else. “Wait, Casey, don’t I owe you for the weed, too?”

Both girls laughed, and April put her head in her hands. “Oh, my god, you always do this when you’re high!” She whispered.

“No,” Casey insisted through her own laughter, “You already paid for Raph and my front seat tickets to the wrestling championships, that’s enough.”

i headcanon that donnie gets very generous with both their money and time/labor when they're high, because their instinct to help their loved ones is as strong as ever yet their ability to filter through and decide what projects are most important vanishes, SO they decide everything is equally important and want to take every single possible opportunity to do stuff for other people. (this is what scientists call "projecting") SO THATS WHAT THIS SCENE IS