#badattexting

[badattexting]

Is it you or me

bad at texting, we can see

modern life’s not free

[thedevilinmydreams]

A message to that friend I haven’t texted in agesssss.

I know, I know. I’m literally the worst at texting. I can go an entire month without texting my friends. And I get that from your point of view I’m trying to ignore you or I don’t care enough or something. 

But here’s the thing right. I swear I think about you all the time. I have the will to text you but for some reason I don’t. I’ve always wondered why I’m so bad, so I have some theories:

1. I’ve realised I stop keeping in touch with people when I have periods of high anxiety or OCD. It’s probably because I try my hardest to distract myself in these times and talking to someone would force me back to reality. To confront my past mistakes or give me flashbacks. 

2. My maladaptive daydreaming definitely doesn’t help. If I imagine my closest friends and family in my daydreams, then what need would there be for real life people? I can have all the happy conversations, activities and experiences without actually needing to have a social life. It’s so frustrating cos I can never snap out of it.

3. I have this amazing superpower in which I come away from a perfectly good conversation or gathering and convince myself that I acted rudely or that it went horribly wrong. Like wtf. I’m so annoyed at myself but my brain just goes there. I suppose not getting in touch with you is my way of avoiding inevitable anxiety.

Whatever the reason, you should know that my keeping in touch does not reflect how much you mean to me. I love you. I’m just real shit at showing it <3

[anything-advice-blog]

What's your take on asking someone via text to ask their sibling whether or not they would like to get to know you if there are no other ways to get in touch seeing as you met them twice but really want to talk to them and learn more? What would one even say in the message? -BadAtTexting

Hey lovely,

I also, as a bad texter, struggle with figuring out how to text people about things. If I were you, I’d try to figure out if you can contact the sibling without going through their sibling. Can you add them on facebook or other social media? It puts the middle person in an awkward position having to play messenger. If you have no other option, then go for it! Really, what’ve you got to lose? You don’t know them too well yet, so the worst they could say is they’re not interested in forming any new connections, and you can move on with your life. We have to take some risks in life in order to make progress. As for the actual message, it could just be something along the lines of “Hey, would your brother/sister be interested in getting to know me better/going out for coffee/etc”. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, simple and direct would get the point across. I hope this helps!

Love,

Kenz