bahamxt replied to your post: I’m six months on hormones [T] and I heard my job...
it is the only thing i have problems with, calling people by their preferred pronoun after someone has introduced them as the other. Idk why but it’s stuck in my brain and i always feel bad cause i always have to correct myself
It is a huge transition. Some people don’t have a problem with it and it clicks right away. It clicked for me right away when one of my friends came out as trans several years ago. And others, it takes weeks, months, and sadly sometimes even years for it to click. I struggle big time using ‘they’ pronouns if I already knew you as a ‘he’ or a ‘she’ and feel horrible. A technique I use is repeating my NB friend’s name and saying ‘they’ over and over again so my brain associates x person with ‘they’ pronouns via repetition.
Because I know I make those mistakes too, I don’t get angry at people misgendering me on accident. My cousins call me he 95 percent of the time, while my aunt still slips up with ‘she’ but only when I’m physically there, so her face association is what messes her up with me esp since she’s known me 27 years as ‘she’. I know she loves me and supports me and isn’t doing it on purpose so I’m patient with it.
Overall, I’m deff extremely privilaged as a transgender guy to have my job respect my transitioning and not treat me any differently, as well as my mom’s side of the family respecting me too. I don’t have to hide anymore and my confidence has shot way up since starting treatment, but even more so with their support. My job knew me as a different name and different gender for about half a year, and my family all my life, so I’m very happy with the progress that’s been made.
Especially on the job front because boy I’ve dealt with some shit at other job locations.
