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your forcemasc posts make my heart flutter eek the market for black transmascs is GAPING

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Hey nonny,

I'm glad you like my posts :) I like to make people happy :) I make what i wanna see, and as a black dude i really just want to see us existing...anywhere, really. Existing is hard, being happy about it is even fucking harder, I wanna know niggas got a chance at this shit. If yall look at my lil poems n shit and you get that from it, thats beautiful.

(as a side note, i been away for awhile and I should probably be clear about this: I do not identify as "transmasc" and I dont really like that word. I'm a man who makes posts for other men. I am a trans man, yea, but really i'm just a man. You aint do anything wrong nonny, i'm just making a clarification. your ask (and the tens of others in my inbox) still makes me happy :) ☆)

Stay safe out there!

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hey jsyk there’s a tiktok that’s reposting forcemasc captions including yours and pretending to have made them. their @ is eli97279

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UGH. hm. Yeah I dont know what to do about that, I dont got no tiktok :T

Well. actually I had just looked into it best i could and this fucker is stealing the work of several blogs and is getting decent attention for it.

Sigh.......Well one, i'm making a tiktok so i can comment on the videos and report this dude. Two, my pictures are now getting watermarked. My captions are my ideas alone, having them taken feels like having someone steal my little poems.

Im fr irritated that some soggy little fuck is making me create a goddamn tiktok cause he stealin my shit and i gotta go report it. wtf. Yall prolly got tiktoks too, please go comment & report so people know this dude is just reposting the poems dudes on here be makin.

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sup. hey. i read your tags. the ones about you showing your posts to versions of your younger self. just wanted to say i'm glad you're making those things for you. those younger versions of ourselves are still within us, after all. i'm proud of you.

I cant even do my gimmick for this one man.

I've been staring at this ask for days.

It means a lot to me. Thank you.

Im deadass too, this ask fr means a lot to me.

He's (my younger self) really small, he aint know what to do with all these feelings, all this unignorable transness. He spent so long in so much pain. I love him, i'd do anything to go back in time and show him how far we've come in less than 5 years.

I make a lot of these posts for him. I wonder, what wouldve been earth-shattering for me to have seen when i was 13? or 15?

Do you remember that one movie, "Home"? Its an animated movie, and I remember the first time i saw it, the first time i saw the main characters mom say "Have you seen my daughter? She has beautiful brown skin, [..]" that rocked my shit. It was the first time i'd ever heard someone on TV say that someone who had my skin is beautiful. Ive long forgotten damn near everything about that movie, but that scene still sits with me. I aint even a chick but i was like damn...black kids is beautiful too?

I want my posts to have that affect on the little boys still inside other men. Now dont none of you show this shit to no actual kids cause thats weird, nah i'm talkin about other 20-somethin year old men who still got the ghosts of their child selves, scared and hurting and crying for acceptance.

I want my posts to grip yall by the collars of your shirts and i want it drilled into your little fucking heads that you can be a black trans man. you aint no confused girl, you aint no lesbian, you not some tomboy, you aint being poisoned by white people, and you sure as shit arent "possesed by demons" or some stupid shit like that. You're a man full stop, and embracing that is beautiful.

but to do that i gotta make sure they do that to me lmao, and uh, yeah they fuckin do.

this got long and sappy but uh, thanks!

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I've nearly asked this a few times but kept backing out, but I'm making myself do it this time. But, Aromantic validation? I'm not just turning into the worst stereotype of a man am I? Or even if I am, it's my manhood, yeah? 🦌👑

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Hey nonny!

Yeah i can do that for yalls, just like gimmie a bit cause like im not super aware of how exactly Aro folks be going about relationships so ive gotta go poke around and see what kinda affirmations i can make yall.

for now lemme say this:

Marriage, dating, "being in love", aint all there is to life. i dont gaf what society tell you, your soulmate can be your best friend. Buy a house with yo friends and have the best slumber party ever like every day of your life, dont no one need to give a shit. fucking your friends deadass does not have to mean anything other than having fun with someone you trust not to hurt you. It dont make you no less of a man to have no desire for a romantic partner. You not no sterotype for only having sexual desires without the romantic ties. Being self-assured and confident in what you do and dont want is a strength to your manhood, not a detraction. Your worth as a man has nothing to do with your attraction or lackthereof, yk?

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Love your blog made me realize I am into puppy play lol any tips on how to bring that up to my boyfriend

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You done asked a nigga of all time lmfao, i struggle hard with this too, but this what i try to do:

- Do not try to have the convo right before or during sex, yo horny brain gonna make it harder lol.

- As for starting the convo? ask him point blank when yall arent doing anything like "hey can we talk about sex for a bit? i wanna try something."

- try to first outline a summary of what you want and also ask if thats okay. (ex: "I want you to treat me like a puppy, you into that?")

- upon a "yes", be more specific and keep going but always phrase it like a question, not a demand. ("could you collar and leash me?" "could you make me hump your leg?")

- if your partner aint already start asking his own questions then you need to prompt em. ("is there anything you want to do?"/"is there anything you dont want to do?")

- chances are you might get "oh im fine with whatever you're fine with." and if he do then two things:

1. ask em if he got boundaries related to this. if you get a responses like "well you already know not to [xyz] so not other than that."/"oh i dont think i could [xyz]"/"my limits wouldnt really be touched by puppyplay"/"actually is it okay if i cant [xyz]?" then you're all good, sometimes ppl just need they memory jogged.

2. if you ask him if he got boundaries related to this and he either say no or repeat "i'll do anything you want" then you need to be careful and take shit slow and easy. Sometimes when fuckin you figure out mid-scene you dont like something that sounded really hot in your head or you try something and it just aint it, thats alright, just be really mindful. When limited to the scope of one specific kink i dont think that response is inherently dangerous, but it does mean you're working with peices of the puzzle missing and you gotta be careful with that shit yk

- once ya got shit sorted out in terms of what acts yall are and are not comfy with engaging in, then walk through a scene, plan a scene together. the first time you engage in a new kink should be somewhat structured imo, thats the foundation that unlocks the ability and trust to be able to spontaeneously roll into a scene. ("what if we started with you teaching me tricks, and then i intentionally misbehaved so you could punish me?")

- ok now fuck. be safe, have fun, i reccommend the stoplight system, and you need to check in.

puppyplay check in questions:

(owner)

"is puppy enjoying himself?"

"does puppy like that?"

"show me what you want"

"bark for it if you want it so bad"

"what color is puppys collar??" (<- stoplight question)

(puppy)

"what does owner want??"

"i want a command!"

"owner wanna play more??"

"can puppy [x]???"

"what can puppy do???"

"owners favourite color???" (<- stoplight question)

aight thats all i got, have fun nonny!

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thank you for bring so unapologetically masculine. idk if i'm just sensitive to it but sometimes it feels like trans men are constantly expected to apologize for being men, whether it be to our family members who "mourn" us or our fellow queers who tell us we're not safe to be around anymore... it puts so much guilt in me that i don't want to be there. like i'm just some guy and that's all i wanna be, just a nice guy who does his own thing, but it feels like people only see us as men when they want to mock us or tell us that we're a danger to them. i digress. tldr; thanks for reminding me that it's okay to be a guy and i hope you never feel like you need to apologize for being you, because you are awesome.

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Hey nonny, you're absolutely welcome.

Fuck i just, i really feel you here dude. It's so weird to be told that someone is "mourning" a version of you that only existed in their minds, when you're standing right the fuck there and just wanting to be happy. i be like the fuck is you mourning nigga, my misery? got off to it that much?

And yeah. I've had other queer folk make "men bad" statements/jokes to my face, I've had 'friends' who would make strange, baseless blanket assumptions about men that do nothing but make me feel gross and guilty for...existing.

(example: I dont even really know who the "try guys" are, but awhile ago one of them cheated on his wife and all i saw for days on twitter were OTHER QUEER PEOPLE insisting that "men calling themselves a wifeguy is suspicious because now we know he was compensating for something", which led to me anxiously asking my wife if she thinks i'm weird or suspicious because up until then i considered myself a wifeguy cause. well i love my wife haha, and i do talk about her a lot. but anyways, she spent a great while thoroughly explaining that i'm not, and that the people saying these things are being very weird and overreacting. in retrospect i think, what the fuck was the point of people saying that? you want men to be scared of showing off their wives? that dont make no lick of sense tf. just make fun of him for being a gross cheater.)

Sorry for the long aside i just, i feel you dude. i also wanna be Just Some Guy lol. But yeah, You know, you'll always be welcome here.

Aint nothin wrong with being a man. Never has been, never will be. Being a man is a completely and utterly neutral thing to be just like any other immutable trait a person can have.

And hey, thanks. I hope you take it easy buddy ☆

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Heyy i have a question for you bro. First of all i love your posts, it's so encouraging and makes me feel genuely better abt myself. My question is how do i make up for a boyhood i never had? I'm 18 and transitioning isn't available to me, my country is extremely homophobic and id simply need someone to tell me my chest doesn't make me a girl etc but i don't know any queer folks irl and it feels like im missing out

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hey man whats good!

This is something I've been doing/thinking about for years, and honestly I'm not sure how applicable my advice is, but i'll still try :^)

I grew up real sheltered and closed away from the world, there's a lot that I never got the chance to experience or be taught that I've had to make up for. I'll ask ya, What weren't you allowed to do due to your socialization/upbringing? for me the answers are: Tackle football, watching star wars, playing with "boy toys" from fast food meals, walking around shirtless, wearing "simple" clothes, stuff like that.

Dont be afraid to derive gender euphoria from shit thats uselessly gendered. I still use Old Spice deoderant because it was Boy Deoderant and i really liked the way it smelled when i was 17 lol. Buy "mens" body wash, use "mens" razors, stuff like that! (In america all these things are less than 10$ so im very sorry if thats bad advice for you)

My answer for experiencing boyhood is: Let yourself be free in all the ways you wish you could have at that age. Collect monster trucks, build lego sets, watch wrestling or mma or boxing or [insert overwhelmingly male-dominated physical sport here], engage with hobbies that are male-dominated and feel good about talking to other men online who participate too.

honestly on that note, make a social media account divorced from any of your other ones with no indicators whatsoever that you're trans, just say you're a man (if you specify at all) and interact with dudes anonymously, kinda like you did me here. It's such a quiet and hidden thing to do, but when i was in highschool (14-17 years old for me) it was one of the most validating things i did for myself. I was just one of the guys, because i literally am.

But also, that boy needs to cry. I'm serious, let him scream and be angry and punch things, let him be sad and ask "why couldnt i have this before?". That little boy inside you could use the aknowledgement.

Also hey, i know you dont got no IRL queer folks to say it to you, so i will: having a chest dont make you any less of a man. Wearing a binder hurts my back, badly. So i stopped wearing them and havent worn a binder in a few years now. I still correct people to tell them im a dude. I just let them hang about freely. I'm just a dude with a chest, and i make people deal with seeing that. Even if you can't go around correcting people and shit, i want you to know it in your heart. Dudes have chests sometimes. Not even just trans dudes! Cis dudes get gynecomastia at varying (but usually a bit older) ages and have to get surgery too. Hell, even those gymrats addicted to roids get tit fat that need to be removed. They're all still men, and so are you. I dont care what it looks like, you're still a man.

I'm sorry if this wasn't quite what you was looking for, but i hope you know you're a brother to us all, and like any brother would, i hope you get what you're looking for out of your life. You deserve it.

Be easy, now ☆

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The way you portray masculinity is one like nothing I've seen before. I love how self indulgent it is, it feels so real and so beautiful, so kind and warm, scrolling through this blog feels so safe and welcoming. With masculinity and males being so vilified as a concept within queer spaces, this feels like an oasis, somewhere to rest my head and embrace my masculinity wholly and accept myself in a whole new way.

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Hey nonny, this means a lot to me. It genuinely does. I really know what you mean, i been seeing that shit for a few years now. It's hard because, I understand, I do. It's the same side of the coin for why people of color will say we don't like white people, when we really mean the social concept of whiteness.

It's still led to a somewhat alienating experince online though. Where are the straight trans men? The millenial and older trans men? Where are the stealth trans men? The "average joe" men? The men who started transitioning before I was born? They see the hatred for men as a gender and the conflation of induvidual men with the consequences and dangers of the patriarchy, and they leave. They blend into cis spaces because they're so certain they aren't wanted here in the community. And i understand them too, because if i was a little older i might've stopped trying already.

I've seen how much those men hurt too. Some seem to endlessly face imposter syndrome from being stealth in cis spaces, and some like me are just desperate to find one spot, just a single space, where any and every action a man takes is not evidence of his horrible ulterior motives and where there is no pressure to hide evidence of my transness.

I want men like us to feel comfortable somewhere. I want men like us to have reassurance that we haven't betrayed the women around us. I want men to have places to openly talk about what makes them feel masculine and secure in our manhood, where we can talk openly about the ways we're rebuilding a healthier, better, concept of what that looks like for us. I want a place for those freshly 18 year old "boy??" types to look and see that there are masculine men who are happy and love ourselves and each other and know that it's very possible to not be a bad man, and being a good man doesn't have to include femininity if you don't want it to.

Sorry this is rather long. This ask just. really means a lot to me. it does. Everything i've just described, on top of not even being fucking white, has made me wonder if i'll ever find more men like me.

I have a handful of asks in the Bark Line all thanking me. When the very first blogs of this type first popped up, i thanked them too. We're so excited to see eachother, and that makes me feel warm inside.

So cmon man, take a seat, have a beer. or don't, i don't mind lol, as long as you're comfortable and having fun. Let's celebrate embracing who we are, let's celebrate being the beautiful men we are.