7 Things About Writing I Learned in 2017
I rang in the new year with a head cold and laryngitis, so setting goals and looking back on all the things I’ve learned over the past year have been on hold for the first week of ‘18. But here we are today!
It’s Monday, I’m 7 for 7 on my daily writing goals (more on that in another post) and in spite of 2017 being a slow, lackluster mess, I really did learn a bunch of important things I hope to carry with me into the new year! In no particular order:
1. I Can’t Do This Alone
Maybe this is a no-brainer for some people, but I spent almost all of 2016 and the early parts of ‘17 trying to be the most independent writer who ever independently writer’d. And then it was time to fill out my MFA applications, and guess what I needed? Three letters of recommendation. From people who were not that one friend I begged to read my second draft. And as I descended into my eyeballs in panic and frustration, I realized: of course, you goof! Even if it’s just you and your word processor at the desk day in and day out, your writing isn’t a one woman job. You needed people to learn from. Even if it was all books, advice posts, and trial and error, you needed the people who made those things. And now you need to share your work with some people for perspective. You’re going to need people to edit, challenge, and cheer you if you want your work to find a published home.
Let me tell you, friends, it was a terrifying realization. I struggle with being vulnerable, and I fall into the trap of feeling terrible about not being able to handle things on my own more often than not. But here’s the thing. We all depend on each other for something. Life is less of a struggle when we work together. And making a connection with another human who knows the feeling of ‘it’s 2am and I’m paralyzed by all the narrative choices I could possibly make’ and actually thinks my niche gay story ideas are cool is a beautiful soul-lifting feeling that I never want to deprive myself of again.
2. I can write short stories!
I don’t think the full extent of my angst for short fiction has ever made it to this blog, but it is deep. I had nightmares about having to cram my sprawling narrative arcs into six pages for class during college. Four expensive years in workshops and I managed to churn out O N E respectable story with a healthy dose of help from my instructor. It’s been a real ordeal. But this past fall, I put myself to the task again. Was ‘Robot Story’ an undergrad fluke, or did I have the chops to make this A Thing? To find out, I took a generative writing course, I followed some of the process tips @shaelinwrites gave in one of her videos, I set myself a deadline, and...I did it. I am a writer who can write short stories.
Is this a weird silly thing to be fixated on? Kinda. But we don’t always get to pick our complexes, folks. And now I have a new literary skill to hone.
3. Writing will never not be hard
Speaking of hard work, between chugging through my latest novel manuscript revisions and churning out an honest-to-god short story, I came to the acceptance we all have to face sooner or later: there is no such thing as ‘when this gets easier.’ It’s work. It’s fun, thrilling work that saves my sanity, but it’s work. It will always be work. And that’s okay.
4. Turn rejection into a game
I’ve seen this one peppered throughout several writeblrs, and with the completion of my short story last fall, I decided to put it into practice to see if it would take some of the sting out of rejection letters. And it did! Because of the way SFF publishing market is structured, I can only send out my story to one magazine at a time. Currently I’m up to 3, but you better believe I’m going to collect on the 20 rejection letters I promised myself.
5. Education will always be important
As you might have noticed from my other points, I figured some of this stuff out because of awesome people who share their awesome knowledge on the internet, who teach classes open to local communities, who are generous with their exercises, and their time. Because when there is no ‘done’-ness to writing, the journey of learning is constant. There will always be something new to try, or something old to revisit because there’s only so much one brain can keep track of at a time. So whether it’s keeping a drawer full of exercises, an always-growing masterlist of tips, or finding a few affordable classes to take near by, it’s best to always be ready to learn.
6. Persist
At the end of the day when you look back on your WIP, you’re not going to be able to tell when the words were flowing like magic and when you were plucking out your sentences one key at a time. In the end, there’s just going to be stuff that works and stuff that doesn’t and it’s all going to have to be revised anyway. So for me, the takeaway is to stick to my regimen even when I’m not feeling it. Little steps add up, and sometimes you can get through your sprawling gothic adventure novel twice in one year without realizing it.
7. Be open
Because of course! How is a girl supposed to find a kindred spirit if she keeps everything to herself all the time? If we are all in this together, and I do believe we are, then I have to speak up too. About my bad days, my good days, my random confessions and my idling ideas. About the things that matter, about myself, and everything in between. Sometimes it can lead to a better understanding. And even when it doesn’t, it’s always better to be seen than to render myself invisible.
So a belated three cheers to the new year. Let’s make this count and get writing.














