so e.mison is one of those ships that i have so many feelings about and care about so deeply but ship in a.. very specific way. like, i have a lot of problems with how fandom characterizes this pairing and generally just.. can’t with certain interpretations of my girls. these are my girls and i love each of them so very deeply and am so very fascinated by their dynamic but only in its truest form. i can’t do the glossing over and romanticizing of abuse that fandom does.
when people start talking e.mison up as this beautiful romantic shiny happy epic love soulmate ship? that’s when i lose all interest and they lose all appeal. there’s nothing healthy about this ship, and the show never really does the work it would need to do to truly get these girls to a healthy place. there’s too much damage. what alison did to emily when they were kids is horrifying, as is the influence she has over her later on. as they get older, it’s not so malicious– it’s more so a factor of alison’s trauma and inability to have healthy relationships or behave as a healthy person would, but that doesn’t change the fact that there’s a lot to this dynamic that is.. dangerous.
there’s so much trauma between these two girls and i need it to be acknowledged. i need emily’s perspective to be as important as alison’s. i need alison’s abuse of her to be acknowledged. i need their individual stories to prioritized over their joint ones. they each need to have a voice and that voice needs to be valued. so long as all of that criteria is met, then.. absolutely. layers upon layers upon layers, complex history.. i’m sold.
like i said i love this ship i just.. love my ship, not that one that’s so popular in fandom that glosses over all of the manipulation and toxicity present. or the one the show threw together in season seven without doing the work it needed to do to make them earned– or at least the ship they were trying to sell. i’m pretty good at taking what i like and mentally discarding what i don’t so i could still enjoy them, but it took a lot of mental re-writing to do so.
send me a ship & i’ll tell you what i think / accepting.