i can’t help but wonder, why are we staying in romantic relatioships that arent serving us?
i feel that platonic relationshops are an entirely different conversation solely because of how difficult it is to find new friends that are tolerable. though, when men are so easily replacable why arent we recylcing them like we used to? what happened to thank you, next??
why are we taking these relationships so seriously, and why are we getting our hopes up? if he dissapoints you in any way shape or form shouldn’t your immidiate reaction be to cut him off? your wasting his time, your friends time, your therapists time and your own. because if hes treating you badly, not meeting your expectations, taking you for granted or being inconsistant why are you still trying to tough it out out when your obviously putting yourself through more suffering than you would be if you were alone?
the process of dating is genuinly fundamental to your personal development to experience, learn and to move on. if you think your gonna gain something from this or hes gonna chnage for you, your wasting your time in the wrong relationship when you could easily get another whom adds value to your life instead of stress. the longer you entertain whast not for you, the longer you delay what is.
if you are trying to avoid the pain of a break up, you are still in pain in the relationship. and if your judgement is being clouded by fear of being alone, then being alone is exactly what you need. it is a free of charge chance to learn to respect yourself enough to know what you deserve and focus on your own growth and empowerment. you can build confidence from knowing your enough with or without someone else. it allows you to raise your strandards, understand when something is a deal breaker or not, and have the self respect to say, "thank you, next."