#becomingagentleman

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Despite the hectic schedule today, grateful to have an impromptu date with this one. ❤️ #becomingagentleman #joysofparentingteens (at Nord's Bread Hub)

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The Professional

Hobbies can never just be “hobbies” for me. When I get interested in something I usually let the hobby then take over my life. The hobby usually turns into a second a job, and then I strive to become a pro at whatever it is that I am interested in at that point. If you have stumbled upon something you are considering being a professional at, I recommending starting with…

Copying the best. My brother is an exceptional artist; I am not. I was curious what my brother’s secret was, so I asked him. He responded with dedication of course, but he also talked about how he copies his favorite artists. My brother than showed me all the hidden things in his art and where he took them from. He told me that copying an artist makes you see things that weren’t there before. If you want to become the best, copy the best.    

                              “Good artists copy; great artists steal.”

                                              -Pablo Picasso

Research the best and who become before them. I wanted to be a pro drummer when I was younger. I had dreams of playing in a metal band in front of thousands. To get to the stage I researched who were the best metal drummers, and who did they idealize. The list become long, but it was awesome to say the least. Researching who was before you will help with the fundamentals.

The Similarities and the Differences. All professionals in a field have something in common, discover what that is. This will help you discover what people enjoy. Also, find out what makes them different. I’ve been looking at successful blogs to find out what all have in common, such as a professional front page, and what makes them different, which is their writing style.

What hasn’t been done.This obliviously is the hardest part. At this time think about what you want out of it. Realize why you are creating something.  This can be simply as combining certain elements that no one has done yet. 

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Gentlemen Habits To Easily Cultivate

1: Self Confidence: Believe in yourself is being comfortable in your own skin and abilities, but with the knowledge that you can always learn and do better.(confidence flow through you. Do this for one or two minutes and see what a difference it makes.)

2:Determination: A gentleman’s determination to succeed, whether in personal challenges, business, romance or life as a whole, is a value that inspires admiration.( Each morning when you wake up, write down one small thing that you want to achieve that day. (do the shopping, make that sales call, write your profile update). Make sure you do it and then cross it off your list at night. Do it for a week and then add a second thing a day the next week, do the thing and cross it off. Continue adding each week for a month and then see what you have achieved.)

3: Knowledge: A gentleman knows that the greatest accomplishments he attains will come through the facts, thoughts and insights he has accumulated by the conversations he has, the books he reads, the things he studies and all the tidbits of information he picks up along the way.( For at least 30 minutes each day read a non-fiction book or magazine.)

4:Masculinity: We believe in the Gentle – Man, the man who is firstly male and possessing male energy, then layeringit with the aspects of gentleness and ease.( Find a sport/martial art/physical activity that you like and practice it at least once a week. Not only will it develop your masculinity but is good for your health as well.)

OTHERS.

1:Style: It is about embracing the rules of appearance and taste and knowing what works for you and then embellishing with your personality.( Dress each day as if you might meet someone who could change your life)

2:Chilvary: is defined as behaving courteously(showing good manners), especially towards women.(Do the little things: give up your seat, hold open the door and walk on the roadside of the pavement. See what happens.)

3:Charm: In essence it is the ability to make other people feel at ease and comfortable around you.At its core it isabout making the other person more important in the interaction than yourself, by learning about them and engaging with them on a personal level.(Listen - all great communication is about listening first. Find out about them and then discuss what is important to them).

4:Humility: treat both triumph and disaster the same. The gentleman is grateful for his successes and happiness and is aware that it can change in the blink of an eye. If that is in one’s heart, then one can have humility.(If someone says or does something that annoys you or upsets you, place a wry smile on your face and think that they must be in a worse place than you to behave in that way.)

THE GREATER GOOD:

1:Courage: is about ability to face difficulty, danger or pain without suc-cumbing to fear. To stand up for those who cannot, to believe in the greater good.( Start small. Stand up for your personal convictions. If you believe in something do not be afraid to defend it.)

2:Honour: is totally bound up in the actions that you take and the principles for which you stand, make them wor-thy of yourself, the gentlemen around you, and the world at Large.( Your Word is your bond – Never make a promise that you cannot keep. Again, start small. Keep your word, whether that be delivering a deadline, document or letter)

3:Loyalty: Be loyal to what you do and the people you care about even if they are not loyal to you(Show people you care for them and have them at heart. Do something with them in the next couple of days).

4:Compassion: for one’s fellow man is to show that you can empathise with another’s plight and, where we can, do something about it.( Do at least one of these actions in the next couple of weeks: Next time you see a homeless person out on the street, offer to purchase them some food, whether it be hot or cold. Ask them what they would like. Or find a place to volunteer, either at a hospice or an old people’s home or even an animal shelter.)

COMMON COURTESY: It is the small things that matter most and it is the same with the common courtesies. Courtesies differ from the manners in that they require more positive action. They go beyond the general everyday of manners.

They include things such as writing ‘Thank You’ notes; going to someone’s house with a gift; your behaviour on public transport and a variety of other little actions.

COMMON DECENCY:

Warren Buffet, one of the world’s richest men, said always behave as if you appeared on the front pages of the newspaper and your life depended on your reputation.

COMMON SENSE:

Nordstrom Rules: Rule #1: Use your best judgment in all situations. when the samurai is making a decision he should be still in thought for seven breaths, for during these seven breaths a clear decision can be made.

Quote: A butterfly can flap its wings in one part of the world and cause a hurricane in another part of the world.