i saw an instagram reel earlier this week about someone with audhd working with their trauma responses, like the feeling of abandonment whenever their partner wasn't around, and instead of berating themselves for it. going ahead and doing things they wanted to do, but not pushing down the feelings: crying while staying busy, instead of rotting.
and as somebody with bpd that hit very hard and I'm going to do my best to let myself sit with the discomfort and fear and pain, acknowledge what's causing it, but not let myself spiral and rot about it either. my partners love me, are committed to me, and them being busy doesn't reflect on me or them or our relationship. but it's not wrong for me to be upset and struggle with that either after years of neglect.
so. i may cry and whine and pout but i'm gonna do it while i play my games and have fun too.