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So, I don't know why things are going south since almost a year and half between me and my boyfriend. Is he hiding something from me? Even after 8 year long committed relationship, I am so confused rn. Can you please tell me something about his true personality and if he is hiding things from me? Or maybe if there's another problem destroying our relationship?
My initials are NG. Sagittarius sun.
Thankyou in advance :-)
disclaimer: this is a prediction and it's based on the current energy, so it might not necessarily become 'true' exactly the way I predict it. Please take everything with a grain of salt. Things can change.
a/n: Hello my dear, it took me a long time to think about how to answer your questions the best way... I feel like the answers I might give to your questions will have a great impact. Communicating with your partner is the only right thing to do in your situation! I will still try to give you some insight. BUT I want you to know, it’s just a prediction from my side, not 100 % the truth. Please, don’t take it too seriously! For your question, I will rephrase it. Even though I usually don’t offer such a reading, I will make an exception but I will keep it short because this could be a super long reading. Thank you in advance for reading, feel free to give me some feedback. I wish you a nice day!
𝐖𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐈𝐒 𝐆𝐎𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐎𝐍 𝐈𝐍 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐑𝐄𝐋𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐒𝐇𝐈𝐏?
For your information, I will try to get a peak in both of your energy, esp. your attitudes towards the relationship. And then do a celtic cross spread for your relationship + some advice/message.
His current attitude towards the relationship: Ok, so he might feel a lack of purpose and passion in the relationship at the moment and maybe instead of asking why that is so, he might keep avoiding it or running away from the problem. He might also feel restricted and powerless to some point but those feelings are just something he has imposed on himself. If he has a difficult decision to make he should release these selfmade mental constraints before doing so. Is he isolating himself and withdrawing from the relationship a bit? He should be more honest with himself. However, he seems willing to heal and change positively. He sees the uniqueness of the relationship, and is learning to forgive and being more open for change in order to go through this period of transformation more easily. He has hope for this relationship to improve in the future again. He might want you to know that there are more things to one’s life than you can see at first. So there might be other factors that explain his current behavior. He might self reflect a lot at this time, learning to listen to his inner child more.
Your current attitude towards the relationship: Currently, you’re trying to reach out to him, yearning for him. You see this relationship as a solid foundation, it's very important to you. You perceive the change in his behavior with a keen eye, you might have the attitude of ‘together we can achieve more’ or you want a clear idea of where this is going, you need an end goal. However, you might also lack healthy boundaries. And this might result in well-intended but messy relationships. You might share your problems and thoughts without any restraint - maybe expecting the same from your boyfriend and entwining yourself too much into your boyfriends business. This might be your idea of being ‘close’ with someone. But it might make the other party uneasy. Try to establish healthier boundaries. Be patient and firm, it may be a very old habit you have to change. Don’t be in the energy of neediness, clinginess or lacking courage. Giving each other space to be alone as well as to express oneself without pressure and talking with honesty might help. Embrace change and differing opinions.
Situation: (I will keep it short)
So, overall there might have always been romance, maybe even something like opposites attracting each other, duality and balance, shared passion and emotions. Communication might have been important from the beginning. There always had been trust, faith and love.
Maybe at times you or them felt betrayed by the other, winning arguments through deceit. One of you might have always had to surrender a bit (probably you) in order to find compromises and to keep the peace.
The possible problem is your ‘duality’ in your relationship. Let me explain. You might lead an ideal relationship but still face some difficulties. The duality led to a strong attraction, the beginning of your relationship might have been rocky at first. However, you came to love each other very much over time as opposites who complete each other. But this time there seems to be a (maybe power) imbalance and this difference in thinking and behavior of both of you makes the consequences stronger.
To solve this, you need to create balance again. Maybe meditating might help. Being more mutual, that means recognizing when to change with the times and when to change the situation itself. Keeping your good intentions/will. Doing everything in moderation, finding a purpose again, reconciling and talking. Don’t be reluctant to change.
In the past the path might have seemed clear. You’ve learned from your mistakes over time and harnessed your emotions.
In the present moment, hard work, maybe even traveling is needed. Making sacrifices and surviving trials along the way. If you stay motivated, your efforts will be rewarded.
In the near future, a transition will happen, something will end (say goodbye to bad habits and mindsets) and something else will begin. There will be disagreements, clashing egos and arguments but only because you care about each other deeply. The passion and emotions will run high in those moments. Speak your truth, only clear communication will lead to a conclusion! Don’t avoid conflict, it's necessary to trigger the change of the unhealthy foundation this great relationship was built on. It might be sudden but it’s also a chance to start rebuilding the foundation of your relationship.
Some advice from my angel tarot: ‘Creativity and abundance - Dear one, you're being called to action! You’re ready to accomplish great things and truly come into the fullness of who you are. It’s a time for great creativity, giving birth to beloved projects, or becoming a parent. Follow your passion so that abundance and prosperity manifests for you.’
Something he might want to say to you: ‘The deeper meaning in a relationship is the only thing that keeps the relationship going permanently.’, ‘Permanent sun shine only creates desert.’
