Slave Chat: Building Your Self Confindence
There is an often quoted saying from John Warren- "The single most common question in BDSM is "How do I find a submissive?". Often i'll see posts like - "how do i find a Master", or "Why am i not good enough for anyone?" It makes me sad.
The fact is, people look for partners who are confident and self aware. You can't expect a Dominant (or submissive) to increase your confidence and self assurance. It's not fair, or reasonable, to expect someone to *fix* you. No one can get inside your head and flip a switch to make it stop. You have to do it yourself.
Personally, i'm a big fan of 'fake it til you make it'. Often times our whole outlook can change just by pushing forth the outlook we *want* to see. Small steps, such as making sure you're *put together* or doing something for another person can easily add up helping you increase your own confidence.
The next time you feel down, try focusing on the good. Here's some articles that may help you find your inner strength.
Yours in friendship ~ ra'naa
How to Build Self Confidence A cute article (with great visuals!!) on increasing your confidence. A quick read. http://www.wikihow.com/Build-Self-Confidence
Building Confidence and Self-Esteem 17 simple suggestions for building confidence and self-esteem. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/hide-and-seek/201205/building-confidence-and-self-esteem
How and Why You Should Improve your Self Esteem This article is filled with tips on increasing your self esteem. http://www.more-selfesteem.com/self_esteem.htm
Building Self-esteem: A Self-Help Guide This 11 page booklet contains information, ideas, and strategies that people from all over the country have found to be helpful in relieving and preventing troubling feelings and symptoms. The information in this booklet can be used safely along with your other health care treatment http://store.samhsa.gov/shin/content/SMA-3715/SMA-3715.pdf
Read these Great Books - Click to buy from Amazon.com - Recommended (from http://www.more-selfesteem.com/self_esteem.htm)
#1104 Activities that Build Self-esteem, Teamwork, Communication, Discovery and Coping Skills by Alanna E.Jones
Great ideas for anyone working with people or kids - learning can be fun! For counsellors, teachers etc... I love this one!
#2Self-Esteem: A proven program for assessing, improving and maintaining your ... by Mathew McKay, Patrick Fanning
Very practical! Learn to stop criticising yourself. I enjoyed the section about dealing with anger. Recommended
#3 The Six Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Brenden
Lots of exercises. Great if you want a program which will bring positive changes into your life. An excellent choice!