I'm going to go to the doctor soon to talk about my gender. Do you have any tips on how I can convince my mum to let me and the doc talk alone? Because I mad up a reason for going to the doc. will the doc tell my mum what I talk about? Also do you have any tips on how to bring up the topic? I am feeling very anxious about this and I'm not sure if I have the courage to go through with it, but I need help because my dysphoria is effecting my every day life. Thanks <3 (please tag as Bobby Mario)
So, the situation you are requiring about is one that is unique to your country, your state, your age, the doctor you’re seeing, and in general the laws of everything. I’m answering based on a general USA standard (or perhaps it’s east coast general, some states are very crazy in rules) but as long as you at 16+ you can keep information between you and your doctor. However, ways to get your family out of the room would be unique depending on how involved your family is.
For my own, just asking them to leave is good for me and my family. Usually I go to appointments alone and family is only there during the legally required check in and check out information process. For other situations, you could say it’s something private you want to talk to the doctor with (which risks questions about sexual relationships depending on family, but you could always defer that if comfortable). If there is any point that she is out of the room and the doctor comes back in before her and you have the time to ask “could i have a minute alone to ask about something with you?” the doctor could create an opportunity him/herself.
Finally, your general physician/doctor person could have great resources or answers to your questions, but the person you generally see about gender/transistion related things are endocrinologists if it is hormone related, as well as a doctor for your baseline physical, or gender therapists who are more long term, through the whole transition process, or to help talk things out about your future goals/ideas that you would like to achieve. Looking up online anyone local, especially if you live in the USA/Canada, there are places dedicated to LGBT+ health care that (post this appointment perhaps) you could call and ask questions you have if they have anyone willing to talk with you one on one on the phone. But your doctor alone could be a good resource. Check with your doctor about their confidentiality laws, what they would be able to tell your mother before you talk to them about anything. This way, if they do have an open line of communication, you are able to be aware of this, or hold back the information if you feel it is best to do so.
I wish you the best of luck! Live long and prosper!
