#body standard

[heartlessmawofoblivion]

How do people find happiness?

I browse art and media and photos and all I see are beautiful people being happy.

I want that.

How do I achieve that? All I feel is empty.

Everyone is so handsome and beautiful online. But when I look around my city I see imperfection and dirtiness. And that's ok, because that's beautiful in it's own right. It is a true visual beyond the filters and photo editing and scripting of modern media.

So I tie myself down to a beauty standard because that's all I'm seeing on the internet. But I'll never be as beautiful as those people, never as cut or chic.

And that shouldn't be a problem, but I want to be attractive to people. I want to be the person others look for company, not the other way around. Average people judge so much based on appearance... I sound like a hypocrite, but I want to defend myself by saying I realize you don't have to be perfect-looking to be attractive. Not even close.

But do other people know that?

How do I find someone that knows the same things I do and believes the same things I do?

Is it impossible?

[ponderingpetal]

Body Standards

Everyone has different views on what is beautiful or not, what is attractive or not, what is acceptable or not, etc. Here is my take on it:

Try your best to be kind to yourself, to other people, and to the planet. Other than that, do whatever you want. If you’re doing your little part to make the world a better place, then what more can I possibly ask for? You really are beautiful on the inside, which is what actually matters to me!

Sure, I have my own preferences when it comes to outer appearance, but I refuse to let that impact how I truly feel about someone (including myself). I’ve felt jealousy and anger towards other people before because I wished that I had their skinny body, or their nice hair, or such a pretty face, or whatever it was. Now, I’m trying to teach myself that it’s okay to want something I don’t have, it’s okay to not be totally content with where I am right now. But that’s all on me. My own superficial, materialistic desires should never affect how I feel about someone else. In the end, looks don’t matter. They really don’t. They’re fun to play around with, they might make us feel more confident or comfortable or happy, and it’s our choice what we do with them...but we are MORE than skin deep. We can make the world a better place, regardless of how we look.