As the decades and centuries go by, society’s idea of sexy changes.
Once upon a time, the definition of a sexy woman was a very skinny blonde with sky blue eyes and pink lips.
Now, a sexy woman is one with an hourglass figure, tanned skin, and full lips.
What does this tell us?
That even society’s idea of a sexy woman is unreliable.
Imagine dying your hair blonde and working out until you’re as skinny as Nina Dobrev, only to find out the next day that the new sexy is curvy with pouty lips!
So no, we can’t rely on society’s idea of sexiness because it’s ever-changing and shallow.
Every woman has to define what sexiness is to her and own it.
As a woman with either big or small scars, what society says/thinks about sexiness shouldn’t make you feel unsexy.
There are so many celebrities out there like Winnie Harlow, Sharon Stone, Kate Middleton, and Tina Fey who, even with scars, are drop-dead gorgeous.
So, if you’re a lovely woman with scars that want to learn to love her body and feel sexy, keep reading below!
Be confident in yourself
Do you know that sexiness is birthed out of confidence and not just looks?
A woman could be as shapely as Jennifer Lopez and still not be considered sexy if she lacks self-confidence.
So, the first step to love your body scars and feel super sexy in spite of it is to build your self-confidence.
Tell yourself that your scars are not flaws, mars or whatever word society uses in describing it.
No, your scar is a part of you and what you are is beautiful!
When you decide the scars on your body are sexy, they become sexy!
So even if your scar is right there on a part of you where it can easily be seen, walk with your head held high.
The only way people can look down on you or try to intimidate you over your scars is if they sense any insecurity from you about them.
So, show them you have none. Once they sense this confidence in you, soon rather than later, they will accept your scars and look beyond it.
If you can own your scars and build your confidence in spite of it, you will definitely feel super sexy!
Embrace your inner beauty
Ever heard the sage saying that your inner beauty is the most important beauty there is?
Your inner beauty is a light that touches everyone you come across and affects them positively.
It’s constant, superior, pure and timeless.
So, if you are kind, loving, patient, caring and humble, a hundred scars will have nothing on your sexiness.
Most people will look away from a woman without scars to gaze at you if they’ve ever experienced your inner beauty.
So, work on your inner beauty. Be kind to others, be patient and humble.
Once you are all of these things, you’ll see that you’ll feel ten times better about your outer appearance and scars.
When you make a person (either friend or stranger) smile, you become filled with a light that not even your scars can douse!
It will boost your self-confidence which is basically all you need to love your wonderful body as it is.
Block your ears to the scorners
While there are lots of kind people in the world, there are also mean people.
People who talk without cautioning their tongues; people who are unconcerned over the effects their words will have on listeners.
So, in the process of learning to love your scars and feeling sexy with them, you need to be prepared to come across these people.
Preparing will shield you against the effects their harsh words are expected to have on you.
If you’ve been staying indoor all day to hide your scars from people, be prepared to encounter these people when you step out.
If you often wear big clothes to hide your scars, fortify yourself against these people when you decide to wear something else.
When you block your ears to their mean words, you show them that you are bold, that you are strong and that you are worth a thousand reasons why.
Being strong enough to face scorners is uplifting.
It makes you feel powerful and a powerful woman is a sexy woman.
Surround yourself with positive people
In the journey of learning to love your body scars and feeling sexy, you need the right kind of people around you.
People who know you well enough to see the light inside you, to see that your scars are one of the things that make you the beautiful woman you are.
Surrounding yourself will this kind of people will definitely give you the courage you need to get over insecurities and to see the beauty in yourself.
Own your scars
To love your body scars, you need to own it.
A few years back, Kylie Jenner went to the Golden Globes in a dress that exposed her huge thigh scar.
Most celebrities would have been ashamed of it and hidden it or found ways to conceal it.
But Kylie didn’t, and the fact that she was bold enough to show off the scar affected how the media reported it.
They all referred to her as bold, confident and very sexy.
This serves as a great example of how owning your scar makes you sexy.
While some scars will fade away in time, some won’t.
With every scar comes a story.
Every scar is proof that you’ve lived, that you have depth, and that you’ve survived.
And surviving is sexy.
Being able to smile, laugh and live after what you experienced is sexy!
Sexiness isn’t just big hips or boobs. It isn’t just a tiny waist or pumped lips.
Sexiness is the confident smile that radiates from within.
It is the knowledge that you are just as special as every other woman out there, even more so with your scars.
It is feeling beautiful inside and letting it radiate to everyone outside.
Learning to own your scars is one of the sexiest things you can do.
And one great way to own your scars is by reminding yourself of how you overcame what caused it.
So, if you were scarred from an accident, then you could have died but you lived and your scar is a reminder of that fact!
Remember that you are more than your physical body
A human being is made up of body, mind, and soul.
This means that your body is just one part of you.
People who get so caught up in their physical appearances that they completely forget about the beauty of their minds and soul are often shallow and vain.
There is nothing sexy about being shallow.
Sure they might look good on magazine covers, but only because the viewers allow themselves to be deceived.
Their friends and family, on the other hand, probably see those pictures and find nothing sexy about them.
So, once you remember that you are more than your physical body and that your mind and soul are beautiful and sexy, you won’t let your scars define you negatively anymore.
Don’t hide
If you are a woman who hides her scars or hides because of her scars, you need to ask yourself a question.
“What would I do if I wasn’t afraid of what people would think?”
Would you wear that lovely dress you saw on the red carpet?
Would you step out of your house in the daylight and feel the warmth of the sun on your face?
Would you wear less stifling outfits when it’s hot?
The fear of what people think is a common reason why people with scars hide.
But these people you worry about barely know you so you shouldn’t give them so much power over you.
You shouldn’t suffocate your dreams and goals over what people, who are living their lives, would think about you.
So, stop hiding.
Do what you want.
Be what you want.
Chase your goals and dreams, in the daylight, where anyone can see!
Once you can do this confidently, you’ll see your body as more than an aesthetic object but as something functional.
Something that can help you achieve your goals if you let it.
This will help you love your body as it is!
Scars are only restricting if you let them
Having scars is a sign that you survived but if you let it hold you back, then you’re not living the life you survived for.
So, stop seeing your scars as a blemish. Instead, see it as your reason to live an even better life than you did before the scar.
Once you do this, you can learn to love your body and feel sexy.
You can walk past a crowd of staring people and confidently hold your head up as a survivor.
There are so many women out there who are unaware that they can be beautiful and sexy with their scars.
So, be the next Winnie Harlow. Love yourself, and let them see through you that it is very possible!
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