so i just finished reading the mistletoe series and oml it hit me in places i didn't know i had. it really do be about loceit loving each other through their insecurities, huh? i think i needed the reminder that that's important.
Aw, yeah! I’m so glad it could be that reminder for you, anon!
Yes, Mistletoe is very much a reflection of what I think a lot of us tend to forget is a core and essential aspect of love-- when you love someone, you love them, period. You do not love them “in spite of” anything. Nothing. Not one single part of their personality.
The people that love us can see us in ways that are different from the ways in which we see ourselves, especially if we struggle with self love. Logan takes it as an objective fact that he’s a boring person-- that anyone who likes him must do so while tolerating that part of himself. But see, those parts of him aren’t objectively anything-- they’re just...who he is. Some people might find them boring. But Janus-- someone who loves Logan-- sees those things that Logan believes make him uninteresting (the tendency to ramble, the impromptu lecturing, the dry and matter-of-fact delivery, the sheer amount of knowledge he has at his disposal and the irresistible impulse to share it), and he says it himself in Things Unsaid; it’s those very aspects of who Logan is that Janus believes make him the most fascinating person in the world.
Logan may struggle to see that in himself. That’s because Logan struggles to love himself. But Janus has zero difficulties in loving Logan. He loves everything that makes Logan who he is because that is what love requires. In the same way, there are aspects of Janus’s personality that Janus believes make him a bad person-- make him unworthy. Yet Logan sees those traits and admires Janus for them, loves him all the more for them.
And that’s not to say that love requires you to believe the other person is perfect or that you have to condone their every behavior. I think it’s very easy for us to conflate behavior with personality. We as human beings are all incredibly flawed. To love someone, you don’t have to love everything they do. You do have to love everything they are.
For me, that’s the most beautiful thing about love. And when I started writing Mistletoe, I really needed a reminder of the beautiful things about the world.
Oh man, I really did just give a mini written seminar on love, huh? Whoops. Anywho, obviously these are just my opinions and my opinions only. Hopefully they give you some insight as to where I was coming from with Mistletoe. I hope you all have a lovely day <3