i- the little in our system, nugget- have been asked my boundaries a few times, and i decided to make a boundary list for my bio- as "treat me like an adult" and "treat me like a child" can lack a lot of nuance! we've seen a few boundary list templates, but they don't really cover all the things that littles may have different boundaries on, so we're making a guide here! feel free to use it if you want, no credit needed, and use as many of the boundary types as you need or want!
this guide is mostly made to be shared online, less for in-person interactions, which should have boundaries discussed with any caregiver, friend, or anyone else you're out to, though this could also be used as a basis for that.
if anyone else has suggestions for boundary categories, please add them so other people can include them
Boundaries:
General commenting on & treating as age boundaries: [e.g. do not mention age, treat generally as a specific age regardless of age identity, treat entirely as an adult member, etc]
Skill & memory sharing: [e.g. shares all memories with the system, does not share memories, has some skills but not all, can do anything the rest of the system can]
Heavy conversation topic boundaries: [e.g. no sex discussion/mentions, politics, venting, etc]
Language boundaries: [e.g. no swearing]
Nickname boundaries: [e.g. no nicknames, no pet names, only friends can call nicknames, etc]
Flirting/compliment boundaries: [e.g. no compliments, compliments but no flirting, only partner/s can flirt, etc]
Lighter conversation topic boundaries: [e.g. talk about little kids' shows, talk about stuffies, talk about video games, talk about more mature hobbies]
Interaction space boundaries: [e.g. cannot be online, must be supervised online, can only be in dedicated little spaces, cannot be in adult-specific spaces, can go anywhere]
Patronisation/infantilisation boundaries: [e.g. speak in a way one might to a child, be cheery/encouraging, use baby talk]
"Parenting" boundaries: [e.g. don't tell me what to do, cgs can make rules but others can't, ask a system member first]
