Can't remember where I got this but please read
Loving someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) ((ROMANTICALLY OR PLATONICALLY))
1) Tell them what’s real. Have them tell you what’s real. Whether it’s the color of their shirt or how much they are needed.
2) Be there. Just be there. For them, or with them. Sometimes the most calming thing can be laying in bed (or on the floor!) with them in silence. Just having another person with them.
3) The little things means everything. The actual idea that you have taken a second to not tell us, but show us will be something we hold onto.
4) Reassure them constantly that you love them. Keep them in the loop of your life, even if it’s just a text saying you love them or what you’re up to today.
5) They will think you’re angry with them for no obvious reason to you, and then you’ll get annoyed that they think that. Don’t. Our minds have a way of making us think any and everyone hates us.
6) They will push you away. They’re scared. It is nothing against you. Typically, it means they’re scared of how close you’re getting. This is a great time for hugs (with consent!)
7) They will love you. They feel so deeply and sometimes it’s so, so hard but they will never ever want to be without you.
