#byline

[killherfreakout]

SAMIA photographed by Sarah Ritter for Byline Issue 06

[thirtytwoelvismovies]

A byline in Canada’s paper of record was once a regular, weekly thing — just part of my job — but it’s been a while since those days. Feels good to see my name in print again.

[sunshineandlyrics]

The news is reaching the mainstream. And Dan is playing the victim (18 July 2023). x x

[charismaandcashmere]

Why it’s time to drop the ‘new year, new you’ BS—and learn to accept yourself

Making New Year’s resolutions can actually be bad for your mental health, says this psychiatrist. Instead, use 2022 to practice ‘radical acceptance.’

By Dr. Wendy Oliver-Pyatt 4 minute Read

We are rapidly approaching the new year, the time in which everyone begins to think about the changes they want to make in their lives. While setting New Year’s resolutions may seem like a positive step toward making these changes, they can actually put unnecessary pressure on you to make and stick to them. And failing to keep these resolutions can be damaging to your mental health, leading to feelings of guilt, disappointment, and depression.

New Year’s resolutions can be particularly harmful for those recovering from eating disorders, such as anorexia, binge eating, or bulimia. I’ve found that many patients in recovery overemphasize resolutions related to healthy eating behaviors and that this practice can be counterproductive to the recovery process. Instead, a more beneficial approach is that of radical acceptance.

Saying Goodbye to the “New Year, New You” Mentality

I’m sure you probably can’t even count how many times you’ve heard the phrase, New year, New you, in your lifetime. It can be hard not to internalize messaging that implies you aren’t good enough the way you are, so you must make improvements—whether it’s related to body size or shape, exercise habits, or eating patterns. Moreover, you may find it difficult to avoid exposure to this type of rhetoric, as gyms begin trying to sell memberships and “health” companies push diets and cleanses.

But it doesn’t have to be this way. Once you free yourself from the new year-new you mentality, you can begin to adjust your mindset to that of developing a new relationship with yourself. You don’t need to change; you only need to take this opportunity to radically accept yourself as you are, for all your strengths and weaknesses, accomplishments and mistakes.

What is Radical Acceptance and How Do You Practice It?

Radical acceptance is a component of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), which involves accepting ourselves and our reality, even painful feelings and experiences. Within the context of eating-disorder recovery, individuals accept the body they live in and the feelings they have related to body image, eating, and more. Radical acceptance also acknowledges that recovery isn’t a linear process; everyone’s journey is different, and there may be obstacles along the way.

Radical acceptance can empower you to accept:

The body you live in

Triggers or stressors related to your body image

Distressing feelings, such as guilt, shame, and anxiety

The challenges you experience throughout eating-disorder recovery

Slipups or relapses related to disordered eating

If you aren’t in a place of radical acceptance, then you aren’t living in the moment. Rather, you are always planning for the future and viewing happiness as something to achieve. When you radically accept yourself, you forgo the perspective that you will be happy once you accomplish certain things in favor of mindfulness and lack of self-judgment.

Here are some tips for learning to radically accept yourself in the new year:

Practice self-compassion: This means that you accept slipups, or returns to disordered eating, with compassion, kindness, and forgiveness. You acknowledge that recovery is a lifelong process and that you are human, capable of making mistakes.

Move away from goal-oriented behavior: New Year’s resolutions put unnecessary pressure on you to make changes and seek perfection. Instead, instill mindfulness and joy into everything you do: Engage in movement that provides you with pleasure, eat intuitively by listening to your body’s cues, and practice gratitude for delicious meals.

Recognize what you can and cannot control: Let go of things beyond your control, and focus on what you can control, such as how you react to stressors, negative emotions, or relapses.

Practice journaling: Journaling can be a great way to reflect on your experiences, emotions, and behaviors, as well as to process unwanted or complicated emotions, particularly those related to disordered eating or other mental health issues.

Forgive yourself: Nothing good comes from holding onto your regrets. Recognize and accept your past behaviors so that you can move toward a place of healing.

Practice mindfulness: If you are in a distressing or upsetting situation, focus on what you are feeling, acknowledge those feelings, and let them exist without judgment. You can also turn your attention to your breath, to its natural rhythm and flow.

Create a list of coping statements: Compile a list of coping statements for radical acceptance that you can turn to whenever you are struggling. Having these on hand can help you react to painful situations in a mindful way.

Another tip that can help you learn to radically accept yourself is a term I coined called “choosing the loving behavior,” or CTLB. I use it a lot with my eating-disorder patients to encourage them to think of love not as a feeling, but as an action. In choosing to care for yourself and to accept who you are— what you feel, how you look, and what you struggle with—you are making the decision to behave in a loving, nourishing way. Even if you feel disdain for your body in a particular moment, you can acknowledge that negative feeling without choosing a damaging behavior.

Although it may seem difficult at first to practice radical acceptance, the benefits are undeniable. Take it slow, and don’t punish yourself if it doesn’t come naturally to you. Just as recovery takes time, so does learning to change your perspective. But once you radically accept yourself and your reality, you are able to focus on what you can control and start moving through life in a nonjudgmental way, better able to cope with painful emotions and situations. Now, doesn’t that sound so much better than a resolution to change who you are and what you do?

[megandzane]

“Ultimately, Harry and Meghan’s departure for California has been a revolt against the toxic culture of the tabloid press in Britain and its unholy alliance with the royal family. Suicidal and depressed, Meghan took a simple view – we don’t need to live like this. To his credit, her husband agreed.”

The Character Assassination of Meghan Markle – Byline Times

As the tabloids speculate that a newly-announced autobiography of Prince Harry will really have been written by his wife, Richard Sanders sh

[ao3skin]

I'm not sure where to ask for help so I thought I'd take my chance here. I've been using site skin ByLine, and it works incredible. But I usually use mobile to read ao3, and the space between the lines looks too big for me (especially when there's a lot of tags). Is there any way I can make them look condensed like in default skin? Thanks in advance!

ok, let me know if I understood what you are asking here!

Option 1:

ul.tags li { margin: 0px; }

Add this code to a new skin and then add Byline as a parent!

Option 2 (written by my friend GF! thank you!): https://github.com/GoldenFalls/AO3_Skins_Mods/blob/master/Blurb-Tags_Types_Byline_Inline_Label.css

Option 3 (Still courtesy of GF!): https://github.com/GoldenFalls/AO3_Skins_Mods/blob/master/Blurb-Tags_Types_By_Line.css

These last two work fine without setting Byline as a parent, but if you want to remove the commas you should set Incommodious as a parent!

Otherwise can you clarify? do you want it all in one paragraph but with the title 'relationships', 'characters' etc?

[evonik-k]

AO3 TAGS

It has come to my attention, that many of you see this

Just,,, utter chaos, completely unorganised tags (maybe not unorganised but you can’t tell where one section ends and the other begins)

May I introduce you to something that may save your lovely eyes

The beautiful, beautiful ByLine skin. Ahem - organised in Warnings, Relationships, Characters, and Freeform for your comfort and also ease of reading.

This is how to get it:

Beneath your profile go to ‘My preferences’

Scroll down until the ‘Skins’ section where it says ‘Your site skin’. If your skin looks like the first image, then it should say default.

Select it and scroll down until you see the choice ‘ByLine’ and select that one.

Once you’ve done that you can scroll to the bottom of the page where it says ‘Update’ and click it.

Now you should be able to have wonderful organised tags instead of a block of text ^^

Happy reading :D

Bootiful

[mariacallous]

A key mistake leaders are making is causing the Great Resignation. Here are 3 ways to fix it

The CEO of Workhuman argues that the old model of work-for-pay, which focuses on trying to extract the best out of employees coupled with an abundant investment in technology, is backfiring on the workforce.

In “The trillion-dollar difference,” consulting firm Korn Ferry surveyed 800 c-suite executives globally in an effort to understand how much corporate leaders today value the human side of business. What they found was most leaders have a significant blind spot when it comes to how and why they invest where they do. A majority of respondents indicated that technology would “create greater value in the future than human capital will” and placed a high value on investment in innovation.

Marry this data against the fact that $11.39 is added to GDP for every dollar invested in human capital and my confidence in the future of technology sharply sinks. The old model of work-for-pay has focused on trying to extract the best out of employees, and this abundant investment in technology is backfiring on the workforce. By primarily focusing on staying on top of tech advances, we’re at risk of ignoring the reality of what’s actually driving business today: our people.

What? Corporate and organizational leaders are undervaluing human capital and and thinking technology will fix things? This Is Brand New Information. 

I do kinda like the three things they identify.