I didn't wanna think of Kane as innocent or guilty until all the facts came to light. Now that they have I believe he is innocent but have come to realize the entire time before this week I HAVE been thinking of him as guilty and just seeing his name or face gave me a queasy feeling. I still get that feeling. How can I get over this? Time? Any advice? How can I ease my way into cheering for him again? (Love your dedication to the facts btw thanks! They've been a big help!)
Take all the time you need.
Watch the interviews if you haven’t already, those eradicated any lingering doubts i might’ve had before.
He did not do it. The evidence, witness accounts, forensics, surveillance video absolutely do not support her claim.
Give yourself time to mull all this over. It’s hard on everyone, we’ve all wanted to support and believe the victim so much and is a blow to that, to us doing the right thing, or what we though was the right thing, and supporting the accuser in her fight.
Your brain needs time to get used to the idea that women do lie, in 2-10-to who knows how many % of cases. Women do lie, period. Men lie too, of course. Everyone does (anyone here who used to watch House MD? raise your hands). And in this case especially it’s so hard to wrap your mind around the fact that a woman would apparently indeed make something like this up, with signs pointing to her possibly doing it for money [her camps reaching to Kane during the investigation and trying to persuade him to settle it then and there]. That is something that makes my skin crawl.
He could have gone to jail for 25 years.
That is what he was facing.
And i am all for being a feminist and in support of the victim and in furthering the fight against rape culture but CHRIST. People.
AN INNOCENT PERSON COULD HAVE BEEN SENT TO JAIL FOR TWENTY FIVE YEARS.
We should not automatically assume the victim is lying. No. But we should also not automatically think they are being truthful. Judge each case on its own merits.
Her claim was taken as seriously as it could have been - a very very thorough investigation was launched and it has reached its conclusion now.
The authorities did believe her. They believed her. They got a search warrant for Kane’s home, they did five rounds of DNA testing, they got their phone records, they interviewed witnesses, they interviewed her, not Kane because he did exercise his right to remain silent. They did all they could to prove her claim was true, was enough for charges to be brought.
It took me a couple of weeks, some time off social media altogether, to just get to the mindset that we did not know actually, well, at that point in time, any facts. Now, you have the facts and can read over them and let your brain process.
Take all the time you need. I don’t think there is a sure way to get back into being his fan again. You might never be able to, which would be a shame but understandable. Or it might happen suddenly, when your brain finally clicks.
I only yesterday fully realized that this was over. There will be no charges, he did not do it. It took my brain almost three days to understand that. I cried. Because it’s over. It’s done. He didn’t do it. We have evidence straight from the DA himself that supports his innocence.
Give your brain the time to adjust. Just being calm and rational enough to go look at the facts is a good sign, I would say :)
And if you need or want to? I’m here if you want to talk.
That offers stands, for you or anyone else who wants.