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[colorisbyshe]

@catandkitty replied to your post: “@catandkitty replied to your post: “mmm, how do y’all listen to...”:

also i'm the fucking WORST at listening to podcasts, unless i'm like, physically restrained by activity from focusing on something else i zone the fuck out immediately so i feel you lol....oh i also listen while working out/stretching/biking

@catandkitty replied to your post: “@catandkitty replied to your post: “mmm, how do y’all listen to...”:

lol i generally do not drive, but i take the bus

The summer everyone cared about WTNV (which was like 3 years ago holy shit??), I had to swim to be able to focus on it. And we have a shitty, small pool that’s for like kids, so it was just me doing tight laps while my neighbors listened in lmao, god.

But I do have an exercise bike... in my room... that I haven’t touched except to hang wet towels on.... I feel like I’m gonna be distracted by how much it makes my ass hurt but I REALLY wnna listen to fucking TAZ now that its wrapped up and I know it won’t overwhelmingly disappointment me.

zaynftkai replied to your post:

“mmm, how do y’all listen to podcasts? like, genuinely does anyone have...”:

                       i play piano tiles (it's a free app) on mute while listening to podcasts!    

ohhh thanks for the recommendation! i’m glad i have so many options be recommended because i am UHHHH gonna need to probably try a lot of stuff. i zone out AND get antsy about not having something else to engage in, so this is good         

[heterophobicmaxanne]

basically, "hypersexual" behavior is a symptom or a diagnosis, like it is an experience not an identity, and it's generally informed by trauma! and to see SO MANY young (very young, young young young 14, 15 year old) people identifying as "hypersexual asexuals" is/feels VERY tied up in the ace rhetoric of sexual desire being bad unless it's experienced by aces (see "allos are all rapist deviants but aces can and do enjoy healthy sex!!" rhetoric), and like, (cont)

(cont) to ignore how trauma and internalized homophobia/misogyny intersects with these kids choosing to id as ace in the in the first place is irresponsible! and then to double down and make “hypersexual” and identification that deserves validation and support is just like, bad. like it’s okay to not be ace and want sex and STILL feel disconnected from mainstream narratives about sex, bc all that is fake and manufactured! a med dx of hypersexuality would still need to be TREATED, not celebrated

what i see is a LOT of young (again, VERY YOUNG) people feeling completely NORMAL feelings about sex and desire and being told so adamantly that if they don’t look at a cute person and IMMEDIATELY WANT TO FUCK they’re ace, and then feeling so much shame and/or confusion over HAVING (real, normal) sexual desires that they’re id'ing as hypersexual rather than unpack all the shit that comes along w ace identities. all this is okay to publish if you want.

thanks so much for elaborating! this really makes sense to me and has highlighted why that term is so nonsenical.

[colorisbyshe]

@catandkitty replied to your post: “Something I hate about the asexual community (and I guess MOGAI, since...”:

weird how there are no heteroromantic ace historical figures hub

don't erase the founding fathers ://

[colorisbyshe]

@catandkitty

they're the exact same as men who insist women's centers be defunded bc men get hurt too, instead of rallying to ALSO fund resources for men. it's easier to force the group you have power over to do the work.

I wouldn’t say exactly the same because they haven’t put in the same amount of work into absolutely destroying LGBT spaces the way men have tirelessly dedicated themselves to ruining things for women because they’re more focused on integrating then men are but they sure do share a lot of the same derailing rhetoric of “well we get hurt by [x] too!”

Even though they know they aren’t TARGETED for [x] in the same way at all lmao.

Like most “wah wah feminism should be about helping men too!” folk, they care more about getting the marginalized group to accommodate them than they do about actually being accommodated?? They care more about forcing the group to give them the space they need than they do about actually having spaces.

Nevermind that with their privilege, they could accomplish twice as much with half the effort but like?? That would still require effort on their behalf instead of just lying back and expecting LGBT people to just... create new programs and funds just for them.

Because as of right now... I can’t think of a single ace issue that the LGBT community already has abundant programs/funding to deal with besides superficially? Like beyond emotional support for certain issues, there isn’t... much there to tangibly change them because we ally with groups fighting for those issues (like rape/sexual violence) because we know certain issues are best handled by different groups.

Which is why most woman’s/feminist groups ally with LGBT groups because we know we face similar issues and have overlap but sometimes one is better equipped to assist than the other.

But fuck spending time to like... understand how allied/overlapping movements work.

[colorisbyshe]

@catandkitty replied to your post: “imsotiredplease: diskhorsedudes: imsotiredplease: ...”:

minor quibble, it IS healthy to teach kids about the "biological purpose" of sex (arguments about the nature of that term aside), kids are curious about like, where do babies come from etc. and it IS healthy/possible to explain that to them without being inappropriate or alienating

Yeah, that's true! I guess I was thinking about the explanations being more explicit. Idk, I was explained "when two parents love each other very much" and that was it until I later discovered sex and other fucked up shit at a very age through OTHER means. But, like, if it's vague and directly states "this is something for adults to do," that's fine.

[colorisbyshe]

@catandkitty replied to your post: “acerecourse: Asexual children exist. Allosexual children exist. ...”:

it is 100 million % creepy and inappropriate for adults to speculate on the levels of children's "sexual attraction" this isn't validation or positivity this is an all-around CREEPY THING TO SAY and @ kids if an adult talks about sex or sexuality like this to you stay away from them there are better, less invasive and predatory ways to address issues about growing up!

Like... I just don't understand how this seemed like a good idea to anyone??

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