Ok transmascs: I've thought I was in conflict with myself lately. I thought I had to choose between being a man and having a baby. And I mean CARRYING my own child. As a man.
Yes it IS possible but I did not know this until very recently. Like last night kind of recently. I was sobbing at this article cuz I feel so...validated?...I feel so much hope and joy knowing I can have a child AND have taken hrt beforehand.
Here's the article: https://time.com/4475634/trans-man-pregnancy-evan/
It's long but if you're like me, a trans man considering bearing your own child and chestfeeding...it's well worth the read.
Also here's a group for trans people having children, it's in the article too but I'll post it here cuz this community is beautiful and needs to be heard: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TransReproductiveSupport/?ref=share&mibextid=SDPelY
I seriously can't say enough about how happy this made me feel. When I first found out I'm a man, I was extremely happy. Then I realized I wanted to bear my own child still and got really depressed because the thought of choosing between being a man and bearing my own child seemed an impossible choice with regrets on both sides. I had even chosen to be the man I am and forego having kids, since it's VERY important to me that my body matches the man I am (I haven't started hrt yet but will as soon as I can get the medical diagnosis requried).
BUT then I did some research on potentially just getting a tummy tuck so that my man body wouldnt be ruined after giving birth, and I stumbled upon the article mentioned above, and now I've been crying all morning cuz I'm just so happy.
I'm not less of a man for wanting to give birth. I can even still chestfeed because as a pagan I want my child to have the most natural upbringing. My child will likely have two dads and I'll be the birth parent 💖 this is so beautiful and I couldn't be happier. We are valid, you glorious handsome men.