Unpopular opinion: no one owes you a romantic relationship
I see a lot of videos and posts of women encouraging women on how to vet men, make sure they have secure boundaries and standards, etc, which is all very important and necessary when it comes to trying to date and all that. But I just feel like no one talks about possibly embracing the reality that in the chance that you don't end up paired up with someone (especially for life) that it's okay and doesn't make you less of a person and that being happily, mindfully single is a real thing.
It's not that I think romantic love and romantic relationships are a bad thing, but I do think that they are highly overrated ideals in our society and too many people are going through life believing that someone "owes" it to them to pick them, find them desirable, or find them as a worthy partner.
I look around and folks sometimes and I see them obsessing/stressing about dating, and finding their "Forever Person" and treating singlehood like it's this disease for which the only cure is monogamy/matrimony, and sometimes I want to ask them "If you found out that you were never meant to be paired up with someone for the rest of your life, or if you knew that no one would ever find you romantically/sexually desirable again. . .would you live your life any differently?"
Again, I'm not saying that desiring romantic relationships is wrong, but people have a way of making seem like romantic love is superior to other types of love, and that other meaningful types of relationships or connections are of lesser value. I think that's why there are so many lonely people out here right now, they're so obsessed with having this one form of love that they don't know how to create or maintain non-physical, platonic bonds which can be just as strong, amazing, fulfilling, and life changing.
