@generallemarc reblogged your post and added:
At what point does “I was never misgendered” become “I hate trans people by default”? You don’t have the slightest level of understanding of the people you’re talking about
“I was never misgendered” doesn’t mean “I hate trans people by default”, but it does mean I don’t understand the trans experience without working to learn about it and that life is a lot easier for me. When I go into the bathroom I prefer, nobody stops me. Nobody demands that I get my hormone levels tested if I excel at sports (this is also something that disproportionately affects Black cis women who are elite athletes). I don’t have to fight to get my gender marker changed on my ID or to get the gender-affirming treatment I need, which even if it were recommended by my doctor might not be covered by my insurance. Going to the doctor is a less traumatic experience for me, despite the fact that I’m fat, because my genitals and my gender presentation line up in the expected way. I’m not a transman who has to go to a “lady doctor” or a transwoman who has to explain why yes, she’s sure she’s not pregnant. If somebody calls me “sir” instead of “ma’am”, it doesn’t trigger any dysphoria for me. I won’t lose my job because of my gender presentation. I don’t face constant casual erasure of my experience by people who say “ladies and gentlemen” or “guys” or any of those things we don’t even think about when we say them unless we get educated to recognize it.
I’m not sure you really understand what systemic ‘isms are and how they operate. Even in a room full of people who aren’t transphobic, the system is still set up to benefit cis people by default. My life is easier because I’m cis in ways that I didn’t really consider when I was younger because I didn’t have to. That’s what I have to recognize and work against. The experience of others is different than my experience, and most people’s experiences are more difficult (because I’m an able neurotypical cis white woman whose gender presentation doesn’t mark me as “visibly queer”). I’m presumed innocent in a lot of situations where others would be suspected. That’s what systemic racism/transphobia/homophobia etc. means. I’ve never had to fight to have my humanity recognized (aside the obvious prevalance of misogyny and queer/biphobia). I’ve been playing life on an easy setting - the system is set up for me.
Even if your simplification were true, it’s not enough not to hate trans people or Black people or whatever group we’re discussing. We all must work together actively for the liberation of ALL people.
