You have the desire for things to work out. Because you see hope. This is how you’ve always been. You aren’t quick to cast someone away if they aren’t what they should be. In short, you fall in love with a PERCEIVED future version of that person. However, this isn’t fair to yourself nor are you doing yourself justice. You fail to live in the present and by doing this you harm yourself. If this person isn’t what they need to be NOW, you must release them. In fact it’s arrogant for you to even envision a change you think they should make. Because you want them to make a change that benefits YOU. How they act is their nature, how you want them to be nurture. It’s something learned it’s an illusion at best. An illusion that suits you. If you’re with a person and they treat you like shit, that is because their personality is shit–And conflicts with your personality and what you desire. You changing that doesn’t benefit them but it benefits YOU. They are content doing the things they do, it’s only a problem because of how you feel. Which leads us to this conclusion. If they aren’t acting how you want them to act SIMPLY LEAVE. If they act more like a child than a man–LEAVE. If they rather treat you like nothing–LEAVE. It’s not up to you to change a persons behavior. You must find someone whom is NATURALLY like the image of how a good man should act. You’re trying to teach a dog how to walk on two legs when it naturally walks on four. Yes, people grow and become mature. But real growth happens when they decide WHEN. Even the nature of this growth falls on their shoulders. This responsibility is not yours and you will continue to be hurt if you make it your responsibility. A partnership is about how two things work in the present. If a remote requires two AA batteries but only one works, the remote will not work.
