We wrote this together to try to make clear guidelines for our DD
The goal of this document is to continue the benefits of the domestic discipline relationship between Mr & Mrs. The importance of clear guidelines and consequences will help to foster our marriage and love for each other. We have always maintained the premise that Wife is an equal and is expected to help make decisions on the children, financial, and our happiness. Nevertheless, it is Wife’s desire to be a submissive wife to her husband sexually and more important in the area of him taking responsibility for her discipline.
When executed correctly, her submission and domestic discipline has helped her to behave better both in fulfilling her role as a wife, carrying out her responsibility in her career, and in her motherly duties. She is calm and less stress when properly cared for and serving as a submissive wife.
It is also incumbent on Husband as the husband to help set clear guidelines and consequences for his wife. Even more important to make sure he is carrying out proper corrective action when required. Lack of clarity in wife’s rules and not following through on consequences can result in her testing boundaries inappropriately and encourages her to be resistant to punishments she quite rightly allocates to her husband. Major improvement in Wife’s behavior has always been achieved by us agreeing to a clear set of goals and punishment for non-compliance, and fulfilment of said punishment. Husband will also delegate and participate in household choirs, Wife will obey and respectfully ask for help or a sit down to discuss better systems when needed.
With a personality that thrives on habits and routines Wife will be assigned base guidelines along with checkoff items that she will be obligated to check off on a system set up by her husband. The base guidelines will serve as the foundation or our marriage and relationship and should assume punishment for any deviation. The checkoff items will be goals that set Wife up to succeed and will be adjusted based on current circumstances. Wife is expected to help identify areas she needs to work on and will work with Husband to set up those goals.
Once agreed upon Wife will accept full responsibility and prompt punishment for failing to reach an agreed upon goal. If special circumstances prevent Wife from completing a goal she can request to Husband to be released from having to obtain that goal in such a period of time. To be granted an exception, Wife should make the request before the goal is not meet and not use a petty excuse of why she would not reach the goal (This would result in Punishment). She should also make the request in a way that acknowledges that she is the submissive and the final decision is Husband’s as the Head of Household.
Spankings will always be the primary punishment tool used on Wife. However, if due to children or other factors prevent a timely spanking a non-spanking punishment will be decided on by Husband. Those options are defined in our agreed upon guidelines. Severe offenses that can’t be address immediately will result in a non-spanking punishment and a spanking punishment when available.
In keeping with routines, a maintenance interval should be established. These should be “easier” punishments that serve to reinforce her role as a submissive wife. Furthermore if Wife has broken the guidelines, failed a goal, or does not accept maintenance discipline appropriately the following punishment routine will be used.
Wife will report a punishable offense unbeknownst to Husband and confess the nature of her infraction and that she requires discipline. Husband will informed Wife she will be punish and give her instructions on how to prepare herself and the punishment room and to go immediately to prepare the punishment room or meet at a specific time. At punishment time she will prepare the punishment room as was instructed. She will get out the implements and a note stating she been a naughty girl and informing Husband what she has done. She then will dress or undress herself according to Husband’s instructions. Failure to obey or follow instructions will result in additional punishment up to additional punishment days. She finally will wait for Husband either kneeling or in the corner.
When my Husband believes Wife has had long enough she will stand whilst he describes her offences(s) as he sees them and informs her she will be spanked. She must apologize for being a naughty girl. If the offence has occurred as part of her maintenance discipline then this spanking is reapplied in full and a further punishment will then be administered. Otherwise having apologized Wife sent back to face the wall for a further period to consider how she might expect to be punished and how she will avoid a repetition of her offence(s). Finally Husband will bring Wife back and with her standing/kneeling Husband will tell Wife how (many) she will be punished. Please note, that giving Wife a number of strokes can be given to help her through a spanking, but it is important that Wife is properly punished for her offense. Husband can make adjustments if he deems it needed to make sure Wife is sorry for her offense.
While some couples try to limit sex and BDSM in DD, we find these actions to be beneficial to our DD activities. While the overall goal should always been Wife’s needs and never be just for sexual gratification these acts serve as the final steps in the forgiveness progress. Sexual healing should always be part of “After care” unless not practical.
The goal of these procedures is to help Wife minimize her indiscretions, reduced frequency of misbehavior, and promote her wellbeing. The immediate effect of punishment procedures are to quickly shows Wife that if she behaves in an immature way she will be treated as this deserves. The time facing the wall gives he time to reflect on her mistakes and accept the consequences as well as consider how to avoid future repetition.
These are the general guideline Wife and Husband have agreed upon. They have can be modified as needed by regular review (never during punishment) as we discovered the need for greater clarity. Changes will be made based on our experience and Wife’s need for both a greater degree of restriction and a more severe level of sanction if necessary. The reason we do Domestic Discipline
If Wife fulfill her submissive role then the punishments are not required. If she fail to comply willingly then it is clear to her the potential consequences. This goal is to improve Wife in her role as a submissive wife. She will serve her husband and both will be happy and have less stress.
