Let it also be said that Annie has learned how to set some mother-fucking boundaries.
To date, I have:
- Told my mom that no, we are not having this conversation while you are upset. I will talk to you later.
- Actually had above conversation, explained why I postponed it, held my ground and position, and asked her to not treat me like a child thank you very much
- Asked her “do you want to do this job” repeatedly (when she micromanaged my clothes-hangar organization) until she was like “no i’ll leave you alone”
- Did not apologize for getting mad at her on multiple occasions because I am an Adult and I can have Feelings
- Told her “I need to get away from you. ILY but I gotta go bye.” And went for a 2 hour drive/adventure. Returned a happier person.
- Repeatedly told her (during my move) that this is my stuff, my apartment, and I am an adult pls listen to me when I have ideas. (She mostly listened)
- Had an honest (but short) conversation about my dad’s alcoholism being a legitimate trauma