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[inhearthell]

Are You In A Codependent Relationship

Are You in a Codependent Relationship? When two people have a very close relationship, it’s natural and mentally healthy to depend on each other for certain things. However, if one of you loses sight of who you are, to please only the other person, the relationship can become very unhealthy. One of the most troubling relationship elements is codependency. Read the full article

[srnevergivesup]

Hi, my name is Sylvie and I am co-dependent

It is soon going to be year since I have started attending Co-dependent Anonymous meetings.

I remember my first meeting. I was in pieces. My life had indeed become unmanageable. I was in so much pain, I really wondered if it was worth living this life of mine.

" Most of us has been searching for ways to overcome our dilemmas of the conflicts in our relationships and our childhoods." " We have experienced in our own ways the painful trauma of the emptiness of our childhood and relationships throughout our lives. We attempted to use others - our mates, our friends, and even our children - as our sole source of identity,value, and well being, and as a way to restore within us the emotional losses of our childhood" Extracts from Co-Dependent Anonymous recovery program Preamble.

I cried and cried when I first heard the preamble. "Yes, this is me." I thought.

The preamble finishes with: " No matter how traumatic your past and despairing out present may seem, there is hope for a new day in the program of Co-Dependent Anonymous. No longer do you need to rely on others as a power greater than yourself. May you instead find a new strength within to be that which God intented - precious and free."

" How am I ever going to achieve this? " I asked myself. I discovered that " How " is up to the Universe. All I need to be is willing to heal and to change. It isn't easy because it means surrending, letting go and trust. It takes patience and resilience. It means finding a balance when I need to take action and when I need to trust the process. For many years, I thought I had to do it all on my own and I pushed myself until I was physically and emotionally sick.

In CODA, I learned that, no, I don't have to do it all on my own. I can reach out to my peers, to my friends and to my Higher Power - the Universe = Buddhahood in all its forms. So, when I am sad, feel depressed, I pick the phone up. I share my hope, strength and experience as wel as my fears and my doubts. I listen to others hope, strength and experience too.

I don't have to suffer alone anymore.