because a show has filled me with extreme fury by insinuating that polyam people cannot be married and still be polyam and also because ive been thinking about the girls (™️), i present to you headcanons for if we proposed and also gender and sexuality headcanons and maybe nuerodivergent projection! we’ll see!
alright, so starting off with the gender-sexuality-neurodivergence headcanons,
Ell has ADD. she gives off the vibes. art is her hyperfixation and she has a couple different fidget toys on her desk! there’s a green and white tangle that she got while in her freshman year of college, a black fidget cube that she stole from me, there’s one of those pop-it things thats like reusable bubble wrap and it’s purple because Matilda gave it to her, a stress ball shaped like a can of cola she found in a store one day and thought it was cool, and, while it’s not exactly a conventional one, Tam made Ell a makeshift guitar out of a tissue box and rubberbands that Ell messes around with when she looks for inspiration. Ell is a cis woman who uses she/her pronouns. She is also demisexual and is questioning her other label (she previously used panromantic, but she’s not quite sure anymore).
Matilda is a trans woman who is testing out pronouns right now! glim knows she likes she/her pronouns, but glim is also trying out glim/glimself pronouns too! glim has sensory issues relating to sound and touch. glim listens to a lot of classical music (she really likes Tchaikovsky, Schubert, and Chopin!) and she has noise-canceling headphones that she uses when glim goes out or when Tammy is playing something louder than normal. Tilda does enjoy listening to Tam play when its a quieter song, though. her favorite texture is her hoodie (glim has a very specific way of washing it and enjoys washing our hoodies too), and her least favorite is chalk. glim is a very out and proud pansexual (glim had me embroider her flags onto her hoodie sleeve no joke).
Tamara is the nuerotypical of the group and takes no shit that anyone has to give about us. they make it a priority to watch out for us (meltdown signs, sensory overloads, rsd, not sleeping, etc) and sometimes she overworks herself with it, so we watch out for her too. Tammy is a newly discovered demigirl who uses she/they pronouns. they aren’t extremely confident in her gender just yet, but we hype them up about it quite a bit. they are asexual and polyromantic (in the way that she is attracted to anyone but men), and she and i have matching ace rings (we went out and bought them together <3)
and now engagement ideas!! note that this does not mean we are getting married, as most of us aren’t really sure how we stand on it (we just give off “marriedcule” [a term i just came up with! idk if this is a legitimate term, so like. don’t use it for other polyam people unless they state its okay] vibes)
alright so Tam would definitely propose first. they would probably either have it planned out for months in advance or got the rings from one of those machines where you stick a quarter in and get a random piece of jewelry. no in between.
if it is situation a, these would be the rings (all can be found on the zales website):
matilda’s
ell’s (sorry for the bad quality)
mine
if it were the second scenario, it would totally be random but i like to think it would be either these
or these
now since Tammy had proposed with rings, we all had to find something special to propose with, so
ell got everyone star charm bracelets with a personalized charm (all can be found on the James Avery website)
(“to the moon and back” is for tam, “the heart remembers” is for matilda, and “you are my sunshine” is for me)
matilda did earrings (tam’s and mine are from body candy, ell’s is from pandora)
(the two studs are for ell, the skeleton heart is for tam [helix piercing], and the cog bar is for me [s/i has an industrial piercing])
and i did necklaces (again, from James Avery)
(pendants are their corresponding colors)
now im getting kinda tired so im going to stop here, but feel free to send in asks about this!!