#commanding respect

[theluckygirlblog]

Calm, Collected, and In Control: A Woman’s Guide to Male Aggression

Male aggression—whether in the workplace, social settings, or even within family dynamics—can be intimidating, frustrating, and, at times, emotionally draining. Women are often conditioned to either shrink in response or appease the situation, but these are not the only options. Understanding how to navigate male aggression with poise, intelligence, and strategic thinking can not only help you…

Calm, Collected, and In Control: A Woman’s Guide to Male Aggression

[motivationwisdomalways]

Powerful Positive Affirmations to Improve Your Life | 30 Powerful Daily Affirmations

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Building Respect: Strategies for Earning Esteem and Influence

[askvelurii]

"Madam Velurii, you seem like a very respectable woman. I have the serious issue of other people annoying me to the edge of my patience. Not a day goes by I'm not grinding my teeth dealing with the ridiculousness and incompetence of others in my Commandry. My hair would go white if it wasn't white already. How do I convince them all that they should leave me alone to be bitter in peace?"

Be the type of commander that when you get up in the morning the legion goes “Crap, she’s up!”  Or he.  I don’t know, I stole it from a motivational poster.  Point is, the key to making people leave you alone is to, and this is important so listen up:  Stop clinging to the edge of your patience.  Have none at all.  

Treat them so miserably by default, as soon as they walk up to you that they don’t want to be near you, while at the same time knowing what you’re talking about.  I find condescension works wonders and it will drive them nuts that you’re always right while pushing themselves to improve just to prove you wrong some day.  And if they did something stupid don’t hold back in pointing it out loud and clear.  

Every once in a while you’ll get one that just does. not. get. the. blatant. hints.  No matter how harsh and rude you are to these types somehow they get this warped idea that you’re a good role model with great advice.  I’m still figuring out what to do about those types.  Thinking of just setting myself on fire next time they talk to me, do you think that’s too rash?  Maybe I’ll just pretend to set myself on fire and run away screaming.  Might be worth it.

Actually…I kinda like that one.  Deadpan look, “I can’t talk, I’m on fire and I have to go put it out.”  And then just walk away.Anyway, if you just can’t stand to be that mean and abrasive…I don’t really know what to tell you.  Perhaps you could cultivate some annoying new habits, such as audibly grinding your teeth in their presence.

To recap:  Practice zero tolerance (flick ‘em in the ear if you have to), zero patience, and give up the idea of being nice about anything.

[masslaxer]

According to negotiation guru Chester Karrass, “… you don’t get what you deserve, you get what you negotiate.” This philosophy assumes that a person does not depend on luck or external forces to have success, but possesses the ability to actively influence others to meet her needs. The same principle applies when setting relationship standards: once a person recognizes her standards, communicates them, and enforces them, she will influence others to treat her in a way that meets her needs, and will ultimately find a partner who will rise to those standards. Conversely, if someone does not demand standards from a romantic partner, then that partner will likely behave to the level of his own comfort, which will likely not meet the other’s needs.

http://uscworkandfamilylife.wordpress.com/2012/03/28/setting-standards-for-a-healthy-relationship/