Do you have Tips and guides to learn how to be assertive/ stand up for yourself? People have been treating me as a pushover lately and I’m tired of it. Yet, I can’t seem to stand up for myself at all. I’m so tired of it. Please help? Thank you
This is really something hard to teach, much like self confidence. It’s something that you kind of just have to find within yourself. I do have a few tips that may be able to help you.
1. Remember you’re first. When I was younger, one of the strongest reasons I was such a pushover was because I was afraid of hurting someone else’s feelings or putting them out or upsetting them. It made it difficult for me to say no because I wasn’t thinking about myself. If you put yourself and your time first, it becomes easier to say no and stand up for yourself.
2. If you’re needing to be assertive because people are picking on you or something similar, the best way to do this is to not be affected by what people are saying. This has to do with confidence. If you have confidence in yourself, what others have to say about you will not matter because you know who you are.
3. Practice in the mirror or having something prepared to say. Sometimes the best way to stand up for yourself is to put someone in their place. Practicing standing up to someone in the mirror is an excellent way to do it in real life. You could also have a few things prepared to say if you would like, something like “my life isn’t your business” or whatever is appropriate for the situation.
