Jul 23, 2022
aro culture is being happy for a friend who's realized they're not aro but also quietly feeling a selfish type of betrayal at the knowledge they may now find a romantic partner they find much more important than you
I would like to note: you are allowed to have those feelings. however, you need to process them in a healthy way. consider if that is a rational expectation of that friend, and if you feel like you can't seem to let it go, consider having a conversation utilizing "I think" and "I feel" statements. "I feel afraid that you might prioritize a romantic partner over me, and I am concerned I'm harming our relationship by assuming the worst of you. I think it's important to me that I let you know that I value your friendship greatly."
#Anonymous#aro culture is#aro#aromantic#actually aro#actually aromantic#ask#mod axel#communicate!!!#please y'all i'm begging you:#consider that *feeling* emotions is not selfish or bad#feeling emotions is natural and directed by monkey brain!#your responsibility is to then say 'i feel this way. i think this is the most likely situation based on my knowledge of this person.'#and communicate your concerns!#it doesn't help to *blame* them obv - but to just have an open convo about it? that's okay
