The Dangers of Lies in Any Relationships
Lies with ill intent can potentially devastate the trust that holds a relationship together. A broken trust can be mended, although it may take a long while. There may be times when its brokenness is beyond repair; thusly, the relationship falls apart and all the shared memories turn sour. This is only one of the major dangers of lies in relationships. Trust is the foundation of all relationships. Once betrayed, the relationship suffers greatly. Sure, there are lies with good intent, such as to surprise a friend, a lover, or a relative on a special day. This kind of lie may strengthen the bond that connects you and the other person. However, lies with the intention to deceive or manipulate are detrimental to that bond. Ill intended lies include sharing half-truths, making up ambiguous statements, forcing interpretations of the truth onto another person, and keeping vital information to oneself from someone who has the right to know. For the longevity of our relationships, we have to be emotionally honest. We tell ourselves that we are honest, yet we shun negative truths, thoughts, and feelings rather than confront them. Consequently, we either end up lying for our own benefit or compromise to the point that we lose ourselves. The selfishness of the former will send a swift blow to the relationship’s trust, hurting our partner. The latter’s extreme selflessness, causes us to become willingly blind and allows toxicity to grow in the relationship. In the process, we nurture it until we feel the relationship slowly crumbling, nevertheless, creating relationship traumas, discouraging trust to sprout again. The danger of lying goes beyond the present, possibly destroying an existing relationship as its impact echoes into the future. The more we keep the truth to ourselves, the more we betray the trust that binds us with other people who are close to our heart. We must, at once, renew our perception on the truth of every matter and handle each one conscientiously. Have you read my article about On Truth and Lies: The Truth Never Abides to Lies? Read the full article