Do you have any scripts for apologising? I've tried to make ones in the past, but I use the wrong tone of voice, and my step-father accuses me of lying or having an attitude.
Hi! Here's a script for apologizing,
You: Hey, I understand that I did *reiterate your action* wrong earlier. I would just like to let you know I’m really sorry about what I did.
Them: It’s okay, I’ve done similar things before. Thank you for apologizing.
It’s important that you repeat back the circumstances surrounding the incident. Going in depth and really discussing the situation demonstrates that you are really genuine in your apology. It makes people feel like they're being listened to and that you are actually reflecting on your actions, and it does a lot more than a simple ‘hey, i’m sorry.’
Extra script under the cut. explaining lack of correct tone/expressions/behavior ect.
Also, I know you didn’t ask for this, but i’m going to put it here anyways. An alternative method for you could also be having a general conversation with your step-dad. Explain to him that you don’t mean to have an attitude and that you fully intend all your apologies to be genuine. You just have trouble with tone of voice, expressions, word choice, ect.This is often very helpful, the better he understands your communication style the better you'll get along.
Here's a script if you do want to try this out, and for others who may need it,
You: Do you mind if we talk about something real quick?
Them: Sure, go ahead.
You: Thanks! I just thought I would clarify some things. I think we’ve had some previous conflicts over my tone of voice and expressions. I wanted to tell you that I do have trouble with those things and can sometimes come off as *angry/lying* when I don’t mean to be. So please try and give me the benefit of the doubt, and please tell me calmly if you think i am not using the correct tone. I don’t mean too and I’d love to try and correct it.
Them: That's completely understandable, thank you for telling me. I’ll keep that in mind in the future!
If you have problems with expression/tone/dynamics it's best to have this conversation with anyone you are interaction with long term. It makes relationships much smoother! Trust me I know! Hope this helped!
